Is it normal that i hate my mom?

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Hi Everyone...Sorry my english is not good but i need help, so please read my story.
I m a 19 year old Girl from india and i am living with my 46 year old single mother..yeah single mother, but all problems in my life are just because of her only...
When i was 1 year old, my parents took divorce because of my mother's irritating and arrogant behaviour(i came to know this after experiencing myself). Only because of her i had to live with my maternal grandparents (my mother's parents)
And my uncle (my mom's brother) and his aggressive son.
And now we had some rules in our house like he is your elder brother and you are youngest in house so you have to bear any type of discrimination... That really F**ked my life for about 14-15 years....then one day my GOOD mom started fighting with her parents due to some property's reason...After too much abusing by my mom...her parents threw her and me out of their house.
Although i dont know what was my fault in this but i had to bear all......after that we started to live on rent...she is a teacher but she never paid for my school fees...she always demanded extra money from my father and after paying my fee she used to keep the remaining cash for her shopping..Then she started to fight with me over petty things...also she fighted with neighbouring people (they were also on rent in same house) too much...many of them were threw out of house bcoz of my mom.... Then our house owner told me that I SHOULDN'T FIGHT WITH MY MOM BCOS SHE IS DOING EVERYTHING FOR ME.... When i was young i was so shy and type of person who dont talks too much...but now after living with her i've become so frustrated that i yell at anybody without thinking much....i am becoming a aggressive and frustrated type person only bcoz of her...Even i think i am suffering from multiple personality disorder...at times i m too much angry and after yelling and screaming, suddenly i think that i was doing wrong...what has happened to me? Plz help me....i cant leave her until i get settled in my career because she says that she will fake a story to my father that i am torturing her and he will not pay my college fees (and many people are there to support her fake story..) But nobody is with me...She is a person who can insult me at any public place....I used to love my mother but Now I HATE HER....i want a mom...plz help me...i dont know why i m so unlucky...my all cousins have loving moms and i always want to cry badly whenever i see them with their respective moms....
All the society thinks that i am wrong because my relation is not good with my mother...i started to hate her a few years back and now i cant resist myself.. I try much but i cant stop hating her...she is destroying my life....i have no best friends and i dont talk too much but she has made many friends in society because she is an extrovert....it was never easy for me and she never supported me....i m alone really...i dont know what to do..PLEASE Help me...
P.S. in past..she has also ruined me and my father's relation by telling him some lies about me and same with me by telling things about him that are not true...still he is paying my fees...now i think he really loves me but my mom really hates me
And i hate my mom..
Is it normal?

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    Your mother sounds terrible and I suggest you build bridges with your father: clear up your mother's lies with him. If you can do that maybe you can move in with him or he can support you to move away from your mother?

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome
    6 years ago

    Could you move in with dad instead? If they divorced because of her shitty personality I'm sure he will understand if you explain your situation to him. I don't see why he'd believe her over you.

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  • jane12
    6 years ago

    you went through all and ur 19 now!! I think as long as ur going to school everything will be alright!!! don't be afraid to speak up people see what they want to!! forgive ur self start spending less time with ur mom!! stay at school for the longest time possible read outside find a part time job!! stop thinking about ur mom it's ur time now think about ur self...... everything will be alright

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    • IntrovertAndHellLife
      2 years ago

      Its been 3 years and I'm back here...actually after awhile I forgot that I had posted this question here...Thanks for replying and your suggestion❤
      In these 3 years many things have changed, my mom has changed alot for the betterment of our family, 2 years back I got admitted in Hospital for severe Asthama and thats when I started to see a change in her...idk why but I think she saw my condition and thought of changing herself? I dont know. I'm just trying to forgive her....coz forever bitterness wont help me at all..it will just ruin everything that I can fix now...Things are going good and I'm constantly trying to improve my relationship with her. I hope everything goes well in the future too!

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