Is it normal that i forgot my middle name

My grandma changed my name. It was because of family issues (my mom's family is dangerous to be around and my dad's is much better and more fun). I was around 13 years old I think.

I know it starts with D but I forgot the letters in between. One of my friends asked me what it was but I couldn't tell her because I don't know it. I just told her I didn't have a middle name.

I know I'm kind of slow (I'm in special ed for it), but I really do not know.

I would ask my grandma, but she would hit me if I act stupid. Like the time I accidentally let my brother steal my game she hit me. Not like abuse but more of a small slap on the face. Because of that I don't want to ask her. My uncle also called me Retarded in front everyone and said she was joking, but then he said it again.

My family thinks that I'm slow and because of that it's embarrassing and frustrating to ask anything, especially about my own name. I don't know where my birth certificate is or anything so I can't find it.

Is It Normal?
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  • Yeah it's normal, no one ever uses their middle name. I couldn't spell my middle name, at least not without thinking about it first, until I was around 15. No offence, but your family sound horrible to be honest. If your uncle ever calls you that again you should reply with something like "At least I'm not so fucking childish, insecure and pathetic that I'll have to bully a teenager when I'm a grown man".

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    • On first reading that it sounds stupid but I feel it would actually kinda sting

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    • My family is weird! They have like four food trucks and they say one of my friends are gay for me, even though she isn't.

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  • that sounds like an abusive situation. i hope it gets better for you. even hitting someone once lightly is abusive and calling you the r word is also abusive

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  • I never even knew I had a middle name until I was about 10. No one had ever told me. I think it only came out when I was doing secondary school applications with my parents.

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  • Could you just ask her for some old documents? Like maybe to see your birth certificate or if you were ever in a church that did things like baptisms or confirmations maybe it's on those documents? Your school would have it. Do you have online access to your school records from when you were younger or maybe you could call the school when they start up again. 13 is pretty young it's not surprising you forgot, emotional and physical abuse can also impact your memory.

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    • I'm 18. And if I ask my grandma she will think I'm even more dumb and hit me or something. I graduated this year so I can't.

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  • It's normal if you forget.

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  • If you’re Joe Biden.

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