Is it normal that i don't seem to feel any real emotion?

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Of course, I panic when emergencies happen... I feel anger and fear, but I'm talking about compassion and love and caring for people...

If my mother accidentally cut herself, I'd say "augh" or something in my head and rush to help, but I just don't think I'd mourn if my friends or parents died. I have a girlfriend who cries easily over news of people dying or being hurt and I envy her and respect her so much because she can feel so much emotion and empathy for people. If I'm looking at the same article I just simply wouldn't care, and I feel even worse about myself when it's for people who I know personally.

Even if my girlfriend died somehow, I'm not sure I'd mourn. I just want her to be really happy, and the thing is, I'm IN LOVE with her, I just don't feel that love as much as the infatuation I felt before the love was reciprocated. Of course it feels amazing when I'm cuddling with her and it's just the two of us... but...

At the same time, I lie to my parents so often that when I tell them the truth, the way I speak feels like I'm lying. Like I get sweaty and mess with my hair and think it through even if it's the truth. My parents are wonderful parents and care so much for me, and I've lived a very lucky life, but I don't know... I just don't care about them. I act, though. I'm known as a soft, nice, guy who's obedient and a bit shy and not that great at life yet to my parents, and to my friends I'm known as artsy, slightly effeminate, and a kind person. And maybe it's not acting? Maybe I am a loving son? But I don't think I'd care...

Also, the REASON I lie to my parents is because they wouldn't approve of me being with my girlfriend. And yes, my life basically consists of my parents and my girlfriend.

I don't know. I'm expressing everything really badly, but that's that.

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  • Stupiddude
    5 years ago

    I feel like you have emotions but you are not sure if that's how it's supposed to feel or not? Maybe you have ocd that consist of you doubting your emotional expressing, i would suggest you get some counselling cause this is stressing.
    Like if you didn't have emotions why would you be nice to your parents and friends. I also sometimes feel like i won't react much to the death of a loved one cause i have never experienced someone so close dying and because the idea of death is complex and weird to me so maybe you are the same idk

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    That’s good. While everyone else cries and bitches and whines you can get things done.

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  • RandomNumbers
    5 years ago

    I was like that until about two years ago. Felt like nothing mattered really, emotionless, just has you described. I learned some harsh lessons about it.
    Not caring for people like that is a sigh of a strong emotional egoism.
    That you probably do have feelings and they are hidden away under a rock until something emotionally stressful happens in your life, and when that happens it will blow the Rock and it will hurt.
    Feeling empathy or simphaty on most cases aren't a instinct or gift, but a thing we must conciously develop.

    My real advice? The truthful I everything that you do. Find a way to stop lying, and life your life with your real face, not some kind of mask. Lies corrupts out sense of justice and judgment, and it's fundamental for our emotions

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Thank you... I'll try to go towards that direction.

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  • Indigo1
    5 years ago

    Practice empathy

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      How?

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Why would your parents not approve of your girlfriend? Were they hoping you'd be gay?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      They have high expectations. Some physical/more based in reality (like looks, education, money, etc.) and some spiritual (asian astrology BS, actually.)

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Well, that ain't very nice.

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  • eeeekkk
    5 years ago

    I’ve felt this way sometimes. Sometimes it can be symptoms of certain mental conditions like depression.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Its okay to be passive, but im not sure that it’s any fun

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