Is it normal that i don't find fat women attractive?

I am a fat guy who is trying to lose weight ( already lost 2lbs but not that any of that matters ) and I'm starting to not be attractive towards fat women, I get a lot of flack from my friends for not liking fat women.

The other day there was this fat chick who wanted to ask me out but I turned down her offer and she got super offended because of it, even after giving her a blunt no response she goes around making a song and dance about why I rejected her.

My main intention of asking this is because some people I know in real life get offended because of my personal preferences.

I don't get why some people have to be butthurt over a preference that I have.

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  • Well, everyone has his, or her own particular preferences with regard to attraction. Most people in general don't find obese people attractive. I think the reason people get offended is because it comes off as the proverbial pot calling the kettle black when there are two overweight people, and one is very much not attracted to other fat people in general. I can certainly understand that you have your own personal, and distinct preferences, but whatever you do in the future please don't get all booty hurt when you find yourself attracted to, and very interested in a long, lean, athletic chick who is very much not into overweight guys!

    Yes, you have a right to your preferences just like anyone, but hopefully you already understand that women who are not overweight could very possibly reject you for the same reason you rejected that overly aggressive overweight woman who hit on you. As long as you are overweight, and this goes for all of the Is It Normal Community, myself, anybody who reads this, and the whole world... as long as you are overweight women who are overweight will feel entitled to a shot at you, and most people will see you as just another overweight person. If you wanna date women who are lean, and fit you must become lean, and fit yourself. Congratulations on the 21lb weight loss, and who knows, when you lose the weight you just might meet a gorgeous, fit chick who used to be fat herself just like you.

    P.S. I don't have any problems with you rejecting an overweight woman, as long as you can handle rejection from a fit woman who says you're too heavy, and not not her type. Take heart there are probably plenty of overweight women who are just as repulsed by you as you are by them.

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  • Regardless of your preferences, a normal-weight woman will not want you.

    You can't be overweight and expect skinny people or healthy people to find you attractive.

    F off man. Lose some weight. It's not that hard. Instead of bitching and moaning about some girl you rejected. Who cares? Why are you bothered by a woman you don't want to be with? You rejected her. So why are you complaining. Why does her opinion of your rejection matter that much to you?

    Focus on other things: like a diet, meal plans, physical exercise. You'll lose weight in no time. Do you want to be a lazy slob who complains and whines when things don't go his way? Or do you want to be a success? Your choice.

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  • My preference a solid body type. Chubby with curves.

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  • She made a song AND a dance about you rejecting her??? Tf.
    Yes it's normal to have preferences. You can't help that.
    I'm not attracted to fat people either but i'm sure there could be exceptions, and it would depend on how big they were.
    It's not the type I would go for first though.

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    • There are no exceptions. I lead an active lifestyle and my partner should be capable of that. Besides, an inability to lose weight shows bad health and a weak mindset. If they can't stick to a diet, they lack willpower and self control. So those are not the qualities I look for in a partner. I don't ask for much. They don't have to be super beautiful or anything. Just be a healthy weight. That is not unreasonable to ask.

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  • I kinda prefer a big boned gal. Just more comfortable. Like overstuffed furniture.

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    • Big boned or thicc is not fat.

      Just that today's culture has become obsessed with skinny. Normal-weight people look "big boned" to us. But sexy thicc and curvy is normal, that is healthy.

      Overweight is unhealthy. There's nothing comfortable about that.

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  • Fat people in general are unattractive sp yes normal

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  • Nah I'm with you man. I know it's hypocrtical. I'm a fat guy myself but I still find fat women unattractive too. I think guys care more about looks.

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    • That's so immature and sexist. A bad guy will only care about looks so obviously you're one of them but a good guy cares about the person more.

      Preference is fine but saying men only care about looks isn't true, meatheads only care about looks. Real mature intelligent and non sexist men care about the person equally or more than their looks.

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      • That is not true. Guys, considered good or not, care more about the looks than the person. If they saw some ugly 400 pound woman, they wouldn't even think about getting with her unless they have a fetish. Same goes for girls. Majority of people really only care about looks more than the person. So sorry hauntedbysandwiches, but you are wrong.

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      • I didn't say I ony cared about looks.

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    • Guys do care more about looks than women theres been studies on this. Looks are far more important to men.

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    • Newsflash: all women find you unattractive.

      Maybe you can score a girl desperate enough to settle for you. But even she will not find you attractive.

      Take my advice and get back to a healthy weight. There's literally no benefits to being overweight, none.

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    • Glad you can agree with me.

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  • I want my chic to look athletic. Fat girls can be not very appealing on the eyes nor the brain that communicates with said eyes as neurolinks allow certain decibels to depreciate in values so long as a scholarship is not provided to them. This is conversations I have had with many of those were of that nature. Also fat girls suck.

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  • What kind of abject morons are voting this as "not normal". So if you're not sexually attracted to every obese member of the opposite sex, then you're not normal? What kind of fucktard logic is that?

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  • So let me get this str8. You're a fat ass who can't stand fat women? How dare you judge others for a fault that you dont have the fortitude to correct in yourself? Im guessing that the thin girls aren't exactly lining up to date you.

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    • First of all, I am not here to go around judging others, I am still working on correcting myself.

      I am not expecting thin girls or any kind of girl to quickly go after me nor expecting them to be lining up for me, it doesn't work like that.

      The other thing I want to point out is no one is obligated to like me nor want to date me but at the end of the day other people have a preference in what kind of a person they're into and so do I.

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  • Actually, I don't care about weight. Every woman has her advantages and disadvantages. I love it when fat women quickly turn around and slap their breasts against their bodies. I like to jerk off to that. Big breast with these thick puffy nipples.

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  • We all have our preferences. As an example, I don't find blond guys attractive.

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  • It's normal to have a preference. I'm on the thinner side but when I was chunky I didn't care if a guy didn't want me. I only date men who are mature and aren't superficial.

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  • People seem to assume that because someone is overweight they must find other overweight people attractive. An overweight person is still likely to hold the common views of what is attractive as an in shape person does despite the irony of being overweight themselves. This is normal.

    That said, rejection will feel harsh regardless of who you are. Make sure you let them down slowly and not carelessly, their feelings matter too so long as they aren't disrespectful themselves.

    Good job on the weight loss and here's hoping you do well on your journey! :)

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    • Not really. People don't assume overweight people have a fat fetish.

      We simply think that a fat man who expects slender women to want him, is entitled and full of himself. He has not put in the work, but he expects women to work their asses off catering to him. He's a hypocrite for wanting his woman to lose weight, but refusing to do so himself. Because he probably thinks he's better than everyone else, so he does not need to change.

      Not a big surprise why this attitude of this obese man is annoying to other people.

      If he even gave a crap about the woman's feelings, he would not be on an online forum whining about her reaction, trying to get validation from us. It's obvious he doesn't give a rat's ass about how she feels. Nope, it's all me-me-me with this guy.

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      • Maybe we've just talked to different people but a lot of people seem to forget that overweight people are attracted to in-shape people.

        While that's true this man in particular hasn't shown any expectations for his attraction for skinny people to be reciprocal so I'm unsure where your animosity is coming from. He hasn't done anything wrong here, all he's explained is that he finds slim women attractive, which is normal, and he rejected a woman he wasn't attracted to. He hasn't said a thing about being entitled to women that are more in shape than himself.

        Infact the only person that had shown entitlement in this post was the woman he rejected.

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      • If I was a me-me-me type of person that would assume I am a narcissist which I am not second of I am not here to get validation and third of all I do not see myself as a hypocrite, I'm someone who is changing oneself.

        Sure I may have given that woman a harsh response and took it too far with it and I do feel somewhat bad for saying it but the bottom line is I should be able to live my own preference even when trying to lose more weight.

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