Is it normal my friend is always talking about me losing weight?

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My best friend is a male and I’m a female. I have expressed to him about my low self esteem at times and how I want to love myself. Instead of him encouraging me to love myself the way I am he really wants me to lose weight. He even bought me this keto diet thing, and has sent me tips videos etc. he gets really angry with me when I buy snacks at the store. I’m borderline plus size, but I’ve dropped a size recently. Some of my other friends thinks that he likes me, but does not want to become involved with me unless I lose weight which is why he’s pushing it so much. (A little history about us I have always liked him but he told me I’m not his type). I can’t tell if he’s being a good friend, or a bad friend. My ex also did these same actions claiming it’s only because he cares. I know both their intentions are different but I can’t help but feel he’s becoming a little obsessive about it. Thoughts?

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  • SKDM007
    4 years ago | pl

    hes trying to mould you into something he wants putting your happiness at cost, do what you think is right for you

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    • LloydAsher
      4 years ago

      Getting healthy is important being fat isnt normal. All I'm trying to do is not eat crap and I'm doing fine.

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      • SKDM007
        4 years ago

        we dont know if OP is obese or overweight, op could have a little chub here and there which is healthy so in that case im standpoint

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        • LloydAsher
          4 years ago

          I feel that your friend would only keep trying to get you to lose weight if you are in the overweight or above category.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            4 years ago

            I’m a little chubby but I’m not huge, I wear like XL & in some stores 1X but a 2X is too big on me. In some stores I can even fit a large so I’m not humongous I just got a little bit of a belly. I do think he may be trying to shape me into his ideal girlfriend though. This would be the second guy to do this to me, I didn’t do it the first time, wondering if I should now.

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            • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
              4 years ago

              Dont date him but lose the weight! You can do it

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            • LloydAsher
              4 years ago

              Ah I see, in that case you are fine how you are.

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  • Unknown_player
    4 years ago

    He sounds pretty shallow to me. If he liked you he'd like you for the way you are

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago

    Lose the weight, look fantastic, wait for him to ask you out. Say he's not your type but he should start working out more because it's good for your health. Send him boxes of protein powder and links to body builders on YouTube.

    Meanwhile get together with a nice guy who likes you for who you are and doesn't give a shit about all of this superficial nonsense.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Forget about him. You need to abandon your "crush", or feelings for him, or whatever that is. It's certainly good to try to lose weight, and get in shape, but he has no business trying to mold you into something that he wants, and he shouldn't get angry at you for getting the occasional snack. I think that a lot of times a so called well meaning friend, or family member can actually hinder a person's attempts at eating more healthfully if they nag the person in question too much.

    Maybe you should keep him at arms length as a strictly platonic friend? I dunno, I can't tell you what to do, but I myself am not into bossy people.

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    • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
      4 years ago

      I wish I had someone to get mad at me when I eat a snickers bar. I ate a snickers bar today and i felt guilty. It would be nice if I had some support network that said "Hey quit eating that bullshit". 🤣 I'm serious, maybe I'd lose the weight easier. I use to have a friend that encouraged me to run everyday when I was boxing. He'd wake me up in the morning and pressure me to go run. Good dude.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Yeah, but we need to learn to encourage ourselves.

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  • palepunk
    4 years ago

    There is no reason for anyone to do that unless their friend is anberlynn reid

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  • bigbudchonga
    4 years ago

    He's probably trying to do it to get you to lose weight because he likes you.

    I'm going to be blunt, as you probably know by now, life is unfair, you will not magically "find the right guy" who will treat you like a princess, whatever you look like, and if you lose weight you will attract a higher caliber of guys.

    Don't buy into the bullshit that "he should love you no matter what you look like", or "you are beautiful however much you weigh". You have two choices, stay fat and catch worse fish, or lose some weight and get a better partner. He probs does like you though, and he probs will continue to encourage you to lose weight so long as he likes you.

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  • Asatchi
    4 years ago

    Sit on his face and suffocate him with your big flabby twat.

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  • Ummitsstillme
    4 years ago

    This guy seems cruel. Go get your beautiful self something else.

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    Being fat is very unhealthy. It puts you at a much greater risk for heart disease. Most people are going to be upset with him because "feelings" but my mom and dad are the first to tell me if im putting on weight. They say "You're getting fat".

    The fact that he's encouraging you to lose weight shows he cares about you. Maybe you should try to lose the weight anyway. Not for him but for you. You dont have to date him but you will feel so much better if tyou lose the weight. You can do it.

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  • Lestat565
    4 years ago

    A friend shouldn’t do that. If he wants to date you he needs to accept you for what you are. And that if you want to lose weight then that’s got nothing to do with him.

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