Is it normal my fiancé’s brothers gf hates me despite trying to make peace?

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My fiancé’s younger brother & his gf have caused drama from day one. Despite trying to be peaceful, ignoring their petty behaviour & even confronting them in a peaceful way, they always find reasons to sour the air.
It doesn’t matter if it’s birthdays, Christmas or family gatherings, she can’t be nice to me. I have honestly never done anything to her apart from not bending to her every whim & believing her lies (not that I’ve said any of this out loud). In one attempt to make peace the girl even tried to ban me from coming into a store she worked in! She’s admitted now that she never wanted peace, but I just don’t get how they can keep telling people (especially the in laws) that they do & they act like this.
This has gone on for years now & it’s getting to the point where my fiancé will snap at his family because they tell us to get along with them even though it’s always us who’s trying. My fiancé & I haven’t even celebrated birthdays with his family because she always appears around the dates...even missed his own fathers 50th because she demanded a celebration for herself.
I feel sorry for her as she has no friends & tbh it’s becusse she’s not a very nice person...but I don’t understand why she won’t change?
She’s also so rude around the in laws; always putting people down, especially my fiancé’s brother. She’s never got a nice word to say about anyone tbh! But for some reason they all tolerate her behaviour & I don’t understand why...
The brothers have fallen out so many times about this & it’s always been the brother (not my fiancé) instigating the drama (well apart from once but that’s because I was really & truly hurt by it all). I just want them to get along but I also don’t want to be treated so atrocially all the time. I’m talking total immature behaviour; waiting for us to say hello first or if we don’t, they don’t & then moan to the in-laws about it, another is nasty looks, lies to the rest of the family & on social media.
I’m not a very confident person when it comes to confrontation & I hoped it would all be ok, but no matter what we do, it’s always wrong & always an issue.
This has gone on for as long as they’ve been together, so a fair few years now...is this normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    You know what? Next time, you oughta bring a gun, and when she starts givin’ lip you can point your piece at her and demand some respect.

    Wait no, don’t do that, that’s a horrible idea.

    I tell you what, she’s probably jealous of you. She probably wants all the in laws attention. So I suggest, you and your fiancé should invite the in laws out to places instead of you going over there. Honestly, she’s acting like a child. And if they find out that you’re meeting in secret and get mad? So the fuck what, it’s not illegal

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    • Gland
      5 years ago

      The gun thing is a bad idea, especially if you don't pull the trigger.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Hopefully one day the brother will grow some balls, and dump her.

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