Is it normal if my man is reuniting with his ex wife and son?

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I've been with this man for a year now. He was married to some woman and had a kid. divorce after 6 yrs of marriage. As per what he tells me, he hasn't seen his kid in 2 yrs. The mother of the kid was pretty harsh.
I asked my boyfriend to reunite with his son, as he was broken inside out.
So, things went as planned. He's finally meeting his kid today. However I don't like the fact that his ex wife would be around every time. I don't know if I'm overthinking... But I feel ignored. I want him to be happy, I want him to have good relations with his son.
He almost cried over the phone talking to his ex wife and so did she... He referred her as "baby" . Wtf! I just wanted him to face his guilt, and finally be Happy.
Now I'm the one feeling lost.
I have no one to talk to. Please I need some advice.

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    See what happens.
    I would hope he would not want to get back with his ex.
    As I read somewhere, Trying to get back with an ex is like trying to put poop back into one's butt.

    For him calling her "babe", I would not put a lot of stock into that. When we are in a relationship with someone, we tend to develop certain communication habits. My ex and I still call each other by pet names on the very rare occasions we talk, but we are not trying to get back together.

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    • SwickDinging
      5 years ago

      "trying to put poop back into one's butt"

      I've never heard that phrase before but it's excellent, I'll be stealing it, thank you

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    You might lose him. Hopefully you will find someone else who is better, and doesn't have any baggage.

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  • Tealights
    5 years ago

    Unfortunately for you, but at the same time very kind, you've brought a broken family back together.

    I wouldn't see it as your lost. Sadly, with how distraught he was over something that happened years ago, he was never going to move on from it. You gave him the push and support he needed to reconnect. Your unexpected job is now done, now just leave him to reunite with his ex and child.

    Always remember, a man or woman who has moved on from the past wouldn't obsess over it. If you meet someone who is constantly bringing up their ex in a good or bad way, no matter how upset them seem at the person, they are not over him/her.

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  • litelander8
    5 years ago

    My baby daddy hasn't seen my son in 5 years. If he came back in the picture of course I'd be there during get togethers. I wouldn't leave my kid with a stranger. I wouldn't sweat it. Baby mama is just doing her lioness duties.

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  • einexile
    5 years ago

    This is a sad turn of events, but given the apparent age of the child it is probably better that they formally reunite. Maybe they can agree to raise the child together but not reconcile the marriage. (This may depend on whether sex was a factor in their splitting up.) The important thing is not to lean on him about this stuff until he has worked out an arrangement where he can spend time with the child. The less you panic and make noise, the more he will think twice about losing you, and the less she will feel like she needs to reclaim what is hers, when really she would prefer something more platonic.

    And I agree with litelander8. No way in hell would I not be present for the meeting if I were the mother.

    To WeirdGuyFromTheSouth - we don't know why this happened. If the ex-wife had a restraining order or threatened one, if she convinced him he was bad for the child. If they moved away and he could not afford to visit. It's a potential red flag but it really depends.

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  • sissycakes
    5 years ago

    he should not call her baby, but of course she is going to be there when he picks up the child. obviously he should be able to take the kid to his house to meet with him if the kid will not be frightened or call for his mom.

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    He hasnt seen his kid in 2 years? Be careful with this guy. Thats not normal. If he can go 2 years without seeing his kid imagibe what he'll do to you.

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  • SKDM007
    5 years ago

    he still wants to fuck the ex, yike

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Yes

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