Is it normal i'm too 'lazy' for a social life

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Im recently 20, I've never been alone. people always seem to talk to me and want to be friends. As far as dating, it's gone well too. But I wish it hadnt

Don't get me wrong, id love to hang out and have friends to talk to. But when the time comes, I ignore or forget to answer calls/texts. I just can't be bothered to want a social life. I love being alone as much as I love going to a party. Honestly this behaviour does cause a bit of depression but then I just give in and hang out or go on a date only once and go back to my isolated life.just enough to get me through I suppose

Tldr; I want a social life but at the same time don't care enough to pursue one

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Based on 7 votes (4 yes)
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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    If you're a girl, don't be fat and your social life will mostly be handled for you.

    If you're a guy, your problem isn't apathy. It's fear of leaving your comfort zone, and fear of social failure. You have to overcome this fear or you will be miserable.

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    • Countess_Kittycat
      6 years ago

      You have no way of knowing about either point, lol, and you are wrong on both instances. The idea that skinny girls have an active social life guranteed is a complete myth, and, if he is a guy, his motivation may not have anything to do with fear of social failure. She/he may be depressed, she/he may not feel rewarded by the types of interaction available, she/he may indeed feel apathic and there are dozens of other possibilities.

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      • Kevinevan
        6 years ago

        Actually he is right about the female comment. Any girl can get laid as soon as she decides she wants to.

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        • redrainbow22
          6 years ago

          Bubsy is wrong, saying that guys have low confidence if they are anti-social. When it could just really be they're lazy.

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          • Kevinevan
            6 years ago

            Yeah I don't agree with him on the male front.

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            • redrainbow22
              6 years ago

              I think hes just reading from a book of his or something lol

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    • redrainbow22
      6 years ago

      Isnt this just a sexist comment?

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    • Kevinevan
      6 years ago

      No bud it's apathy. I'm the same as op. I get a little depressed but when it comes down to it, I'm too lazy for a social life. It's too much of a fucking hassle.

      I just wish there were groups for people like us, where we could hook up, fuck, then go back to our isolated lives.

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      • bubsy
        6 years ago

        The more days you spend in isolation, the more even the most simple social interactions will seem daunting. You have a social muscle and you have to work at it to improve.

        Curling 30lb weights is too much of a "fucking hassle" when you've got twigs for arms.

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        • Kevinevan
          6 years ago

          I agree with you but I don't get enough out of socializing to bother working out. Most of the time I prefer solitude and it's not worth putting in all the effort for the few times I feel lonely.

          Sure a girlfriend would be nice in theory, but I don't enjoy dating, I don't enjoy all the bs that comes with a girlfriend and it just isn't worth it at the end of the day.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    You should never ignore calls if they're from people you know. But besides that, from what I understand, you like being alone and hanging out with others. So do both. If a someone calls you and you want to hang out with them, then do so.

    If you feel you just want to have some alone time, then say no and have some alone time.

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