Is it normal i'm a 25 year old virgin (guy)?

Okay, I'm 25. I'm a guy. I live in Cali. The furthest I've ever gotten with a girl is making out. No BJ, no hand job, nothing. I've never had a girl friend. Growing up I was SUPER shy. I couldn't talk to anyone boy or girl, but girls were waayyyy worse. Now, I'm good at talking to anyone, guy or girl. Most people seem to like me. I've made out with some girls, but not a lot. My problem is I'm scared that if I get into bed with a girl, and I don't know what to do she will be like "WTF you're 25 why are you so bad in bed?" It's really embarrassing. I feel like most chicks wouldn't want to have sex with a guy that doesn't know what he's doing at the age of 25. Has anyone else dealt with this? I would especially like to hear from other dudes that have gone through this, but advice from anyone male or female is appreciated. Also, I'm starting to be afraid that I'll never get a GF ever because of this. What should I do?

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  • As a girl, I can tell you honestly that it's not that a big of a deal. Just tell your girl that you're a virgin and she'll probably be psyched to know she's your first. With my boyfriends, I've always hated knowing that there's been other girls that he can compare me to.

    And honestly, being a virgin is kind of sweet.

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  • Don't worry about sex and just find someone you really like. If she cares about you too, then it shouldn't matter to her too much..

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  • Though I'm a female I totally understand how you feel. I am 27 and still a virgin and have never had a bf. To be perfectly honest, I want to meet a man who is also a virgin, I want to share that experience with someone as fresh as myself, that way there really isn't any pressure, we can explore eachother with great freedom. I tend to lose hope at times that I will ever find what I'm looking for, what I need, but just by reading your question I too now know that there is no reason to give up:)

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  • I am a 24 year old female whose a virgin. I would be really happy to meet a virgin male. It means he is not comparing me to the other girls he has been sexually active with. It also means sex is not meaningless to him and he values it highly.
    I think the best thing to do is wait until you meet someone who truly gets to know you and loves you for YOU. If you ever want to chat for support from a fellow virgin, feel free to contact!

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  • You sound sweet. It's not weird. I asked the same question on my profile but I'm 18 and never did anything with a dude not even a kiss. It's nice to know that there are still guys like you who are not screwing everything that he sees. I'm sure the girl would be happy that she's your first.

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  • coming for a girl, most guys i have been with have been bad at the beginning anyway. every girl is different with what she likes and how she likes it. ask her what she likes and experiment. girls will appreciate that a hell of a lot more than having to fake it over and over and over because of how selfish some men are in bed. its good that you want to pleasure a girl and that will override you being a virgin. just make sure that you get the girl off for your first time because chances are you will blow pretty quick.

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  • Normal. 25 ain't that old.

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  • In all honesty, until you learn each other's bodies, sex is kind of awful the first couple of times (or at least in my experience). So no worries!

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    • can be, i guess...but i kind of disagree - doesn't have to be aweful. just be patient, kind, and passionate. PAY ATTENTION!!!!

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  • My ex was a 26 year old virgin when we started dating. It happens. The mature girls won't worry about it and more than likely understand. Don't let it get you down, and I'm sure you'll find someone =) if any girl gives you lip about it just remind them that you found them special enough to share that moment with them. If they still give you lip, kick them outta the bed and tell them to forget it.

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  • I know it's popular belief that girls are usually submissive in bed and the male is dominant, but a lot of girls are turned on to guys with little experience or guys who are younger. When this is the case, it's because the girl likes to feel..

    Badass. In control. Sexy. Like she's treating you. Like she's corrupting innocence. Is this making sense?

    When a girl is with a less experienced guy, it makes her feel like she's a big deal. Which she is, if she's the only action you've gotten in 25 years. When she's a big deal, she feels confident and sexy and good about herself.

    Your gratitude and awe of her body gets her off.

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  • Dude save what's for marriage for marriage!!

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  • Don't worry.. In fact she may be interested in teaching you a thing or two.
    Yes, early starters have more experience.. But just because someone has slept with n amount of women doesn't necessarily mean he's good in bed..

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  • I am a 24 year old Virgin. I will be 25 in January. I want a virgin boyfriend. I want to lose my virginity to someone who has not sleep with anyone either. There are so many diseases out there.

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  • if anyone ever puts you down tell them to eat s*** and d**.

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  • Get married. Tell your WIFE you are a virgin and if she made it that far to getting married first , she probably is too. And it won't be awkward...

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  • I'm a girl, and honestly I think it's perfectly fine. Nothing to be embarrassed about ;) I think if you just tell the girl you're with that you're a virgin, she would have more respect for you and even like the idea that she'd be your first. The worse that could happen is you find out she's not the one. No biggy. So good luck :)

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  • hey dude,i'm just like but i'm still 19.however,my girl-friends tell me it's no big deal and that my first girl will be so excited that she's my first,even at 30 man.As for the girlfriend thing,i can sense u are very romantic sort of guy.I believe you don't want a girl just for fun but that you are looking for a serious relation.I have to admit i do have one,but relax man.Go out with friends(especially girls and not to American pie type parties)and i'm sure you will find someone caring for you

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  • You just have to jump in and hope for the best. There are plenty of douchebags who do not care how the sex is for the girl. Some guys have had sex with plenty of girls and still do not do a very good job. The main thing is to be attentive and aware.Pay attention to the girls reactions and when you find something they seem to be liking, roll with it.

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  • I'm a chick. While I don't think it's normal, I think some girls might find it endearing, like, that you just wanted "to find the right one." It's probably not what you where thinking, but it's a good spin to put on it, lol.

    Dude though, I'd totally do you, just as a friendly hand-off, but alas, I live on the East coast.

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  • You might as well turn gay.

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  • Is it normal? No. But you already know that. Is it okay? Yes.

    I'm not gonna lie to you, as a 27 year old woman I find the idea of sleeping with a virgin incredibly undesirable. But I've had this conversation with my girlfriends and I was surprised. Many ladies your age would not be at all put off by your virginity. The biggest hang up most of them admitted to having about it was the possibility that their less experienced boyfriend might think too much about the fact that they've been with other guys. So when you find a nice lady to show you the ropes, please try to show your appreciation for her experience without making her feel like a slut. Or you will lose that sex.

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  • Hermano deje de preocuparse tanto, no tenga Pena... Este mas seguro de Si mismo y vera que le va a ir bien

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  • Oh god i thought i was the only one. Lol. Im 6 years late but im a 25 year old virgin. I have no problem talking to girls and alot of girls seem to like me. Its just ive been waiting for the right girl but now i feel ive waited too long.

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  • I'm a 25 year old Virgin and everybody know it seems everywhere I go people keep shouting it to me they say I should kill myself cause I'm a loser

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  • Yeahh bro it is normal . I mean I have that same problem you have ,I am 19 male and I still haven't had no experience with a girl .so I'm still trying to get over the hump .

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  • there is NOTHING wrong with that! people think sex is complicated especially if you feel like your a late bloomer, it's super easy, for me when i had sex for the first time my boyfriend at the time was also a virgin it was just...easy, you don't have to be like a sex god to pleasure a girl. The world doesn't revolve around sex either, i think you reduce a lot of risks, unwanted pregnancies, and most importantly STD's/AIDS. that time will come and with a special and very lucky person! btw i think it's actually kinda hot that your a virgin lol but that's just me.

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  • Omg! I thought I was alone I'm also 25 and a virgin :( its hard to handle it. I feel kind of embaressed because a lot of people do find it odd. But I totally know what you are going through man 100% . people make such a big thing about sex but I would rather not have sex then to be like a lot of these guys hooking up with girls they meet and have sex the same night and end up with kids from someone they don't even know and a lot of those guys end up being dead beat dads. I want to but really do think its important on who it is with most people just do it to get it over with don't matter who its with. But idk I guess I just see it different and for that it makes me feel odd like something is wrong with me. I am a good looking guy and all butlike he said was very shy growingup, iI'm still a little shy but can keep a conversation up with people I guess its just the vibe coming off certain people that depends on how I interact with them. Hopefully I could meet someone that has the same mind set when it comes to this but am starting to doubt it a lot now. Any girls want to teach me :-)

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  • This might come as a surprise, but sex is easy. It's natural, you don't need to go to school for it.

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  • Well, first of all, don't be so quick to listen to some of the fools on here. Some stupid crap. Any woman worth "losing it" for will be totally cool with the fact that you have kept yer willie at bay. Honestly, you'll probably have more questions about whether or not you're straight. And that's a SAD commentary - but unless you have purposely abstained for religious reasons (which you didn't mention, so i doubt) chicks think all dudes are total horn dogs and would nail a tree if it'd make him feel good. You are, to them, an enigma! When the time comes, just be honest. Don't forget, that for all of your inexperience, you have the power of your imagination for the past 25 years. Be more concerned with her needs than gettin' off and you'll be fine. BTW, when I got married I was 24, a virgin by choice, and have been having amazing sex for 13 years. In fact, might get me some now...later...

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  • Hey man I'm a guy in the same situation you are, I just turn 25 and I've never had sex with a girl yet. Ive always been really shy and unsure of myself but this is starting to change. So your not alone in this and I think that as more time goes by we kind of make the situation more than it is. I used to beat myself up over this but now I don't care, this is me and I just want to find the right girl. Sex is a natural thing to do with someone you care about so just know its normal and if a girl cares about you I don't think it will matter.

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  • no need to get married first... and about the whole being worried that they will be like "WTF?". its not just guys who like sleeping with virgins, girls do too. i was 16 or 17 when i lost mine, before i slept with the girl she was like "oh yay a virgin!" and it was a great night and i ended up dating the girl. its a huge weight lifted off your shoulders, and being a 25 year old virgin i couldnt imagine the pressure. just get it over with man, let some drunk chick hop on your dick at a party. even better do something crazy your first time so you can have good stories haha. my first time, we had sex in my dads office, then my closet with my drunk friends opening and closing the door cheering me on, and then we had sex right next to my friend sarah who was passed out drunk and she laughed her ass off the next morning when she found out. oh and girls wont call you out if you suck at sex, expecially if they know your a virgin.

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  • dont be a dummy and cum on her tummy. all you need to know.

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  • listen bro theres nothing to worry about,i lost my virginity at the age of 22 cuz i guess i had the same fear as you did. when it happened it simply happened it wasnt planned out nor i thought of every step to take i didnt even tell her it was my first time and guess what i guess all the porn i watched during my adolesene worked cuz she thought that i was an expert and she kept looking for me after that night she even told me once like wow i et you fucked many girls before me and she really ment it. just have fun and dont worry bout wut shes gonna think. GOOD LUCK!

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  • You rang?

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  • WHERES VALKEER WHEN YOU NEED HIM.

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  • I love teaching inexperienced men. That's why I usually go for dorky boys that aren't 10s.

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