Is it normal i find my fiance unattractive sometimes?

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My fiancé and I have been dating for over a year and a half. Before that we knew each other a little before, and it was not love at first sight for sure. But then he became very insisting and would not let go so we started dating and now I have developed feelings for him. We're close to getting married, we're moving in together, but sometimes I'm scared because I do not find him attractive at times. We went to a photoshoot and half of the pictures weren't good, I was just depressed looking at him. I can't even imagine how he will look like in a few years from now. I know it sounds superficial because he is literally the kindest man on the planet and treats me like a princess, but I sometimes look at cute guys and feel sad I can't be with someone that looks as good.

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  • palehorse
    4 years ago

    "he became very insisting and would not let go"

    Kinda a red flag there...

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      That shit would be a turn off, and a downright dealbreaker for me.

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      • palehorse
        4 years ago

        Yeah. If you can't respect my decisions, you can go fuck right off.

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        • RoseIsabella
          4 years ago

          I can't stand pushy people! If I'm not into someone on Monday, I ain't gonna be into him on Wednesday, and I damn sure ain't gonna be into him on Friday.

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago

    Are you sure you want to marry him? Putting his looks to one side, it sounds like you haven't been that into it from the start. You don't need to marry someone just because they're nice and they ask you. Marriage should be something that you get really excited about, not something that you sleepwalk into.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    Sounds like the classic "grass is always greener" situation.

    What you're feeling is indeed superficial and very immature, but if you're convinced you can hook a better-looking guy and that's the most important thing to you at this point in your life, then you'd be doing your fiancé and yourself a favour if you backed out of the marriage. If you stick to your promise to marry him, maybe you'll grow up enough to some day understand that looks just ain't everything, but it sounds like you need more life experience to teach you that lesson, and he shouldn't have to suffer your simmering resentment while you go through that process.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Thanks. It's very complicated.

      One one hand, I feel very grateful that he loves me and supports me, he's not completely unattractive either but I just don't feel comfortable catching him in bad angles sometimes. It feels nice to have this part of life figured out and to have a partner to share your life with. He's my best friend and we have this deep connection Im not sure to ever find again.

      On the other hand, I have only had 3 relationships in my whole life (i'm 28). i horribly feel like i'm missing out on so many things. i sometimes feel like i'm going too fast with this marriage and with this guy that i haven't really known for a long time (only 3 years or so) and it brings me serious anxiety. it just freaks me out because i dont even know if i truly love him sometimes. i do know that i get worried when i dont hear from him and that i cried when he threatened to leave me after we argued a year ago. sometimes i just wonder if i can do better... and i understand i should let him go if thats the case, but at the same time i'm fearing i'm walking away from the love of my life...

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      • McBean
        4 years ago

        You are likely headed into a sexless marriage. They're not fun. There's very little that can be done about them. I'm sorry.

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      • FromTheSouthWeirdGuy
        4 years ago

        Do what you feel is right. Ive been with my wife since I was a young teenager. I get the part where you feel like you want to see whats out there more. I felt like that too but honestly it passed eventually. It was sorta around the 3 year mark for me when I started to think about leaving. I'm glad I didn't looking back. Now I have a kid and she's like my best friend. And lets be honest when we get old we're gonna be ugly anyway 🤣. Might as well have your best friend/partner there to get old with.

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  • CoffeeTime
    4 years ago

    Hate to say, but your marriage will surely end up in divorce. It's better you break up with him.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Don't get married to someone to whom you are not attracted. Also, NEVER go out with someone who won't take no for an answer! A guy who won't stop harassing you to go out with him is a guy who doesn't respect you.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      4 years ago

      I was just about to comment this exact thing.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Thanks!

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        • SkullsNRoses
          4 years ago

          You could say the Rose knows.

          (Getit cos SkullsNRoses and RoseIsabella... I’ll show myself out)

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            HA! Not bad.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdGuy
    4 years ago

    Maybe he can get in shape 🤣

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Please don't get married! Don't be part of a divorce statistic!

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  • brutus
    4 years ago

    Break up! You are not attracted to him.

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