Is it normal i don't know how to speak?

I have a lot things to say and do and think, but when it comes to other people, I can't put thoughts to words and I don't have anything to say.

My friend talks to about anything at all and I don't have anything interesting to say back. But when I walk and pace around, my mind goes wild and I have crazy conversations with myself and my imaginary friends. How do I talk/speak more and be natural?

Is It Normal?
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  • Sounds like social anxiety. I have it and when in a social situation its like my brain just shuts down and I cant say anything. Or I just end up saying everything inside my head but not out loud.

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  • I do the same thing. I think it's probably just a matter of practice and maybe overcoming any social anxiety or other issues. Might be worth talking to a therapist or someone if possible and if you think it would be worthwhile.

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  • I have the exact same. in my mind, I have the best and most interesting conversations and ideas, but when I have to interact and do not have a chance to write what I want to say, I just say some insignificant nothingness of a slurry. my mind is just a slurry of thoughts and I can never really grasp anything properly unless I am alone. I guess we are in the same problem. literally. even with the imaginary friends. I try to simulate my real friends in my head based on what I know of them, like a databank.

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  • even though i voted not normal (because i have never met anyone besides myself who has this experience) i have the exact same problem! i had to work on it a lot but now speaking is more second nature to me. you literally just have to pretend you're talking to yourself (or your imaginary friend or whoever) when you're talking to people. so the next time you're having a conversation just think "ok what would i say if this was a conversation in my head or if i was talking to myself? what am i thinking right now?" and then say that. even if it feels really hard or awkward (which it might) just keep doing it. i totally get this feeling. if you keep practicing it will eventually become natural

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  • That's exactly the problem I have. I want to practice talking to people to overcome my social anxiety, but I can't cos I can't think of anything to say.

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