Is it normal i cry everytime i see a girl/couple?

Everytime I see a girl on the street, on the bus, at work, even on TV or in a movie I feel like crying. This happens with couples as well. It's very painful to see them and remembering I'll die alone and I'll never be loved that way. Sometimes I can't hold and I burst into tears in public places, which probably makes me an even bigger weirdo. I haven't slept well on months and every time I go to bed I remember that I'll never experience romantic loves and I just can't do nothing but cry until I fall asleep

I wish I was one of those people dead by coronavirus, at least my parents wouldn't have to deal with a suicidal kid and it won't be so sad. I don't know, life isn't worth when you'll have to spent it alone watching everyone else being in love and being loved back. I wish I wasn't a unlovable hideous monster.

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  • While I don't cry, I feel real sad seeing other couples. It reminds me of my own fucked up love life, and the inner critic that tells me "You're not worthy of anyone finding you attractive. Why are you even having feelings for someone?"

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  • "A watched pot never boils".

    You need to detach from your desires for physical intimacy, and romantic love. The more you concentrate your energy on wanting these things the less you will accomplish in your life with regard to creative, academic, career goals.

    Whatever you do don't waste your time fantasizing about this stuff. Try to be present in the here, now. Don't get lost in your head.

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    • What can I do if getting married and have kids and being with someone for the rest of my life was something that gave meaning to my life? I went to college because I wanted to have a good job in the future. I got a job and I try to learn and get more everyday to be better at my job. Why? Because I wanted to be able to take care of my family and be a good husband and father. But with that gone, then everything I do is meaningless.

      Being richer than Bill Gates or being a homeless is the same for me. I will be lonely and sad until I die. It hurts and it's getting harder to get up in the morning and I can't fill the void and I'm not sure if it's possible

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      • I don't know what to tell you. In these past couple years I've found a lot of satisfaction in being solitary. My only regret now is that I didn't always enjoy, and appreciate being single. I think it's important to be mindful, and appreciate where I am in the life at the moment.

        This moment is gone already, and will never come again. I don't want to waste my life longing for what I haven't got.

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  • That's why I self medicate fuck what society says if your feeling bad use something to take the edge off.

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  • This sort of mentality is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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  • Unless you got caught in a wood chipper, you can always improve your looks. Hit the gym. Get some abs. Heck hit the plastic surgeon if you have to. It's easy to lay around feeling sorry for yourself but hard to motivate yourself to actually strive towards a goal. Talk to a professional if you need to about social anxiety or what have you. Good luck. It's 2020 and the crap is hitting the fan. Time to man/woman up and get your shit together.

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    • Unless I could afford a large-scale face surgery, I'm screwed. It's hard to feel motivated to achieve something that's impossible. I'm just too ugly

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      • Bein to hard on yourself my man. Sounds like you found love once. Sure you can do it again. Plenty of fish in the sea like they say. Get on some sites and start trolling. Good luck

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        • Hahaha no, I'm 30 and never had a girlfriend. Heck, never kissed a girl. There's no one out there for me. No one could be so tasteless or blind to like me

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  • The modern education system is designed to teach you how to get a job. Now how to be a successful person - which includes how to positively develop relationships to people.

    Here's a few starter books that may help:

    How to Win Friends and Influence people: Dale Carnegie. I now recommend the updated "In the Digital Age" version.

    How to Stop Worrying and Start Living: Dale Carnegie

    Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude: Napoleon Hill & W. Clement Stone.

    I find that few of the modern books have anything to say that are not in these books - and these have more information than almost all of the modern books.

    Key though. You cannot prevent how you were raised and what you were taught. You can change that. Self
    education is your responsibility; and it will change your life in a very positive direction if you do it.

    I wish you the best,

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  • You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself calm down and eat some shrooms man.

    If you're just on here for sympathy and to be edgy talking about dying from the current virus in the media you're in the wrong place to faze anyone. If youre bein real mah dude you gotta realize the depression is causing those thoughts. You can learn to view your thoughts objectively through the use of psychedelic drugs.

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  • When your that age you think the only thing that matters is getting a bitch. Few years later you will realise there is more to life. Any way your young, eshk, Youll get a bitch one day, there is probably one sitting somewhere right now feeling exactly like you do.

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  • I'm in the same boat as you because I'm always single because I'm too shy to talk to guys that show interested in me. I've have gotten negative comments and looks of disgust from men in the past that proves I'm not the greatest looking female on the planet. I remember one time my mother and I were getting lunch at a shop in town and there was a couple in line in front of us and I saw them kiss and the guy ran his hand down her back affectionately and it made me and want to spit flames of envy. My sisters and brother all have kids and are in relationships while I'm all alone and unloved and it's obvious I'll be that way until the day I die :(

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  • You know, a huge reason people become disillusioned with their lives is that they keep comparing themselves to others. Quit moping at how well off (you think) everyone else is and work on yourself.

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  • You’re nutzzzz

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