Is it normal for your friend not coming over to spend time with you?

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I have a close friend who I have known for 20 years, since I was 20. I'm 41 now. Over the years we have been out clubbing, took our kids out when they were younger to the skating rink, the mall,out to eat But now it's like when she does something with her other friend, she says "My Best Friend" and I did this and that. I feel abandoned by her because she doesn't visit me at all. All I want is her to come over and just watch movies, and just talk. Is her behavior normal? The friendship changing?

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Yes, unfortunately it sounds like ya'll's friendship has changed, and the two of you have grown apart. It's okay, this kinda stuff happens.

    This is kind of embarrassing, but I haven't had much contact, more like no contact, with my old friends. I'm a clinically depressed person with a lot of anxiety, and I just feel bad about myself so I tend not to reach out to people, and a lot of times I just pretend I'm not there when people reach out to me, but that's enough about me.

    It just sounds to me like the two of you have grown apart. No doubt it probably hurts like Hell when she refers to someone else as her best friend, especially if you and her once referred to each other as best friends. My question to you is what do you do for yourself? Try to do things just to treat yourself, I also think you should get involved in different activities that you might enjoy. Maybe you could take a class? I also want to say that it is significantly harder to make good friends as we all get older.

    I hope I've been of some assistance to you. I know it's not easy.

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    • Prettyinpurple
      5 years ago

      I just started receiving SSI disability. My hobbies are survey taking and writing. I don't know anyone that receives this that I can have in common with. All I do is pay my bills, go online, do surveys, eat, watch TV and feed my cat. I'm 41 yrs old. I suffer from Major Depression, Social Anxiety, and PTSD. I'm a nice person but I, like yourself don't like reaching out to people. I fear rejection because it hurts so much. Thanks for responding.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        You are very welcome! Are you seeing a therapist? I find that seeing a therapist can be a big help.

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      • Palestine_Did_Nothing_Wrong
        5 years ago

        What a hotpot of patheticism. Improve yourself or be left behind.

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