Is it normal for my boyfriend to ask for money all the time?

He doesn’t work nor ever had a job yet he wants me to give him money all the time. I’m not his bank account.

I work and earn money just for him to take it. If I don’t give it to him, he will hit and yell at me. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. He’s just never happy.

I have given him over maybe $500+ now. He has been asking me for months to give him money. I give him $100, he tells me that’s nothing and yells at me. I don’t know what to do to make him happy. I want the money for myself to save it up. He only spends it on weed

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  • Leave him, that’s your money and he’s not entitled to it.

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  • So hold up. That nigga be laying at da house all day waiting for you to come back from work and then you must give him all yo money??
    Hoe, that's yo pimp

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  • No that is not normal, have you considered about dumping him? From what I can tell he has a asshole type personality. He also sounds like a piece of shit.

    You should be with someone who cares about you and does not take advantage of you.

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    • I have thought about it many times and I just might. I’m just scared that he will try to hurt me though... he already abuses me and I’m scared that if I leave, he will do something

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      • Get a restraining order. If he tries to confront you, call the police. But whatever you do, don't stay with him. The abuse will absolutely continue if you do.

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        • Or if she's so unwilling to deal with cops, try find an MMA fighter or simply a guy who's more gangsta to get you rid of him. Actually, there are many bad guys who happen to be good to their partners and family, even caring. You just not met one

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  • Ah yes. I've been there. It ended up costing me a hell of a lot of money that I didn't really have to spare. Took me 2 whole years before I finally worked up the courage to escape, and a further 5 to pay off all the debts.

    Please remember that all of the control that you think he has... It's not real. He hits you, sure, but that doesn't give him any real power. He's pathetic.

    Do you live with him? If so you need to either wait until he's out of the house, pack your stuff and go, or if he never goes out then either bring a couple of trusted friends with you to help you pack, or failing that just call the police. They will help you. You are not stuck.

    This is not a relationship. You are just a purse and a punching bag for this loser.

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  • It is totally normal for a leach to leach money from you, and others.

    They will bleed you dry both financially and emotionally if you allow them to remain in your life. I've actually got a long term friend who I have tried to support though her dealing with a leach in her life... and now she has had a mental breakdown to the point that she can no longer normally physically function, and lost her job.

    I suggest you move on to another; and completely shut off all contact from this person.

    Find someone who is supportive of your dreams and goals.

    You can live a successful life,

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  • That's not a boyfriend boo that's your pimp.

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  • Get rid of this piece of shit abuser guy that you are wasting your hard earned money on, and wasting your precious time with.

    You need to call a women's shelter, and speak to someone who can help you come up with an escape plan!

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  • Next time he hits you, you need to call the police. If they have paper work, restraining orders are super easy.

    This situation is never going to get better. You need to leave and never look back.

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  • PACK YOU STUFF AND GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM BEFORE YOU ARE A STATISTIC and a missing person. And of course you are his bank and atm. He has no respect for you. Hes around because you gave in to giving him money so why should he go somewhere else and leave his cash cow. The sad part is its gonna get worse before it gets better. Have you ever called the police when he beats you up for not giving him money or anything ? You might also be suffering ftom low self esteem. You are going to need to fi d a way to get him out of your lifebefore he gets really pissed and goes to far someday. You might consider a shelter or they can point you to resources for abused women. DO NOT BE ASHAMED OR EMBARRASSED. YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST AND WONT BE THE LAST. BUT FOR YOUR OWN SAKE - get some help getti g him out of your life. AND DONT GIVE THE "BUT i love him" speech. For a guy to do that to a woman, is that somebodies fucked up idea of what love should be. You need to gather up all the strength you can, have him arrested or something. Get a no contact restraining order. Look at it like if it was your daughter in your place, what would you tell her to do ?

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  • This is NOT normal at all, please remember your self worth and leave this guy. I was in a relationship with this guy who didnt have a job and also lived 2 hours away, but I shared everything with him, I'd buy us a 24pack of beer to SHARE and he'd drink almost the entire thing and when he stayed at my house he drank all of my families milk, ate a lot of our food. It was ridiculous.


    My advice,leave but dont tell him your leaving or he could plan that out to beat you or kidnap you. And get a restraining order is he persists and stalks you.

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  • You've got the type of man fathers want to murder for dating their daughters. He's a LOSER. What kind of man doesnt have money for weed? Its like the cheapest drug out there. He's a pathetic excuse for a man and he doesn't deserve a woman. You should go after a winner. Someone who makes enough money and has their own place. Dont deal with these losers you have all the leverage. You have the vagina which means you're worth more. They have to entice you to come with them. Youve got things backwards. Know youre worth.

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  • Dump him. Simple.

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  • Guys a loser and a domestic abuser as well. leave his ass and turn him in to the cops.

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  • Take care he doesn't drive you as far: https://abcnews.go.com/amp/International/wireStory/slovenian-woman-cut-off-hand-insurance-payout-72946034

    I'm amazed how depraved ppl exist in this world who can so cruelly manipulate and exploit their closest ones

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  • Young pothead is total douche...I’m shocked

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  • He has an ugly personality and he's a lazy mooch. Those qualities make him a completely useless human being and useless people deserve to be thrown to the curb to fend for themselves.

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  • Spends it on weed? what a fucking moron, why you continue with this guy?... i never understand why women put themselves in these situations.

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    • Because I’m a dumbass who chooses to follow her heart rather than her brain.

      Plus I’m scared of him as wel

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  • Get rid of his ass! Right now you are only enabling him and allowing him to use and abuse you, which is not okay. The only way he will ever stop is if you stop giving him money, and get him out of your life so he can't hit you. Get a restraining order if you have to.

    I've known beggars who refused to get jobs and were always hitting people up for money as well, but thankfully they were not violent. The worst thing that happened for them was people continuing to give them money and enabling them, though. If they feel they can get away with having other people take care of them and have no responsibilities while getting to buy the things they want, why would they stop?

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