Is it normal for my boyfriend not to trust me?

The both of you need to sit down & talk this all out. Get everything out in the open, have a deep and meaningful & then draw a line in the sand.

If things don't improve after that, maybe things never will.

Have you given him reason to be suspicious? Do you talk to or flirt with other guys when you're out together? Or give the impression that you're otherwise available even if you're not? I only ask b/c the woman I'm dating (for the second time, actually), has health issues and, admittedly, doesn't get out much unless we go out together, so, when we do, is kind of on social overload..As a result, she talks to seemingly everybody, mostly guys, while with me, seeing it as fun and social, but not realizing that she looks available despite being physically with me.

I monitor it well, and most guys see it as social or maybe fun flirting, but don't step on my toes and advance things with her (that I know of), but, she's gone outside for a smoke with one or two, raising my concern and trust issues. And she, like yourself, tends to tell "little lies" or worse..not full stories, until way after the fact, raising my concern further.

Few months ago, we were at a local place we like and know well. She started chatting with a kitchen guy, who then told the bartender he was going out for a smoke. She joined him. He at least cleared it with me, which I appreciated. They go, spend, in my mind, a tad too long, and come back. She later, as in, we'd long been gone, tells me what car he drove, to my asking "You were in his car??", and her answer of no, he just needed his lighter. My thought was, he could have used yours..And how would you know what his car looked like if you weren't IN it?. Still says she wasn't, but I have my severe doubts, even if it was just for a cig.

My point is..Don't give him reason to think things that aren't there. Guys are, by nature, protective and a bit paranoid to begin with. We don't like the thought of someone else honing in on our woman. Problem is, some women love getting guys going, even if nothing is going on. Just don't give him reason, and things will be fine.

It doesn't make sense for him to think you're lying if you're not. You both need to talk about this.

At first glance I would say that he sounds paranoid.

When I see someone paranoid about their partner cheating on them, it's almost always going to be one of three things. Either

1. They've been cheated on in the past.

2. They're just very insecure, have low self esteem and feel like they're not good enough for you.

3. They're cheaters themselves and thus assume everyone else is cheating too.

It's time to sit down and have a nice long talk about your issues, where his problems are coming from and how you guys can continue to grow as a couple and move past this. If it's 1 or 2, it's difficult and it's going to require him to let those walls down and trust you, but it's definitely doable. If 3, and I hope it isn't for your sake.. then it's definitely time to pack it in.

That said, if 1 or 2 and this isn't something he seems able to move past.. it still might be time to say farewell. Jealousy can lead to some pretty ugly places and what's starting as arguments and concerns could very well advance to abusive and controlling behaviors. If that shit starts - if he starts setting rules for you to follow, needing to know where you are at all times, getting angry when you spend time with friends or interrogating you about your friends - if he starts trying to isolate you or keep you to himself - get the hell out. Run. That is the beginnings of a cycle of abuse that no one should ever find themselves in.

What did you lie about? sounds typical. Also congrats on your prettiness lol