Is it normal for daily hygeine to be exhausting?

I have been dealing with severe depression since I was 13. I am 26 now. I used to deeply care about looking good almost all the time. I would obsessively groom myself. However, the past 4 years I have been on the opposite end of the spectrum where I don't care about my looks at all. I just don't have energy to do all that. I don't even want to do basic activities. I only recently started showering regularly. I would go days just doing stuff around the house in sweat clothes with unbrushed hair that basically becomes dreaded. It takes so much energy to even do simple things. I don't want to changw my medicine. How can I feel more motivated? I don't want to get ready, i don't want to do self care, is dont want to clean my nails etc. Am i weird/ disgusting for this? This is such a humiliating problem.

Is It Normal?
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 42 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • I used to just sit on the shower floor for ages as a teenager. The water eventually soothed my nerves enough to convince me to wash myself.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • the sound is hypnotic and the water hitting your skin is liberating its one of the best ways to collect your self another way it to sit in a lawn chair in nothing but trunks in a moderate rain storm in the dark

      it really helps you clear up the fog that likes to hang around when you get depressed

      just carful not to get sick

      Comment Hidden ( show )
    • I actually did they same thing a a teenager. I want to do that again.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Interesting. I’m a stay at home mom too and I also don’t do shit for my hygiene. It’s not like I stink. But Ive never brushed my hair regularly or showered regularly.

    I don’t think I’m that depressed. I’m happy to stay in bed with the baby watching survivor all day. But I really do want to get back to work. I put makeup on for some get togethers. My MIL saw me naked after giving birth so I really don’t care what I look like anymore. 🤷🏾‍♀️

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • You definitely stink.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • We’ll my 3 kids and man don’t care. So I’m not really too worried. Thanks for your relentless concern.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • Why are you getting so defensive? I'm just telling you that you have deluded yourself into believing you're free of stink.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
            -
          • I think your obsessed with me.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
              -
            • Again, I know that you are playing out this fantasy where I'm obsessed and in love with you when it's the other way around, but you have got to get it together. It's not healthy!

              Comment Hidden ( show )
      • How do you know?

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • Don’t worry about wow. It’s just in love with me.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
            -
          • *Sighs* We've been over this Litelander...I know you want that to be the case because you're very clearly in love with me and you are playing out this fantasy of yours where I'M the lover, but I have already made it clear that I'm not interested. Sorry.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
        • Because anyone who doesn't care about their hygiene does. Duh.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
  • When you're depressed everything is exhausting.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I'm in the same boat. I just wear my pyjamas all the time barely wash them, NEVER brush my hair unless I go out somewhere interesting like every few months. However I do shower regularly. Because showering is pleasant. The other stuff I couldn't care less about

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Yes, occasionally hygiene can seem exhausting. I don’t know why.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Scrape off your excess grime and loose skin, sell it online.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Yeah funny thing with that is the busier you are in life the more you will develop time management skills and have commitments and responsibilities that require grooming. The more active you are the more it feeds into your energy and so on and so forth. But yea depression is a major obstacle in all that and I’ve been there brother
    Hope you can turn it around

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Takes less energy to do that than to come on here and make posts about it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Try to bring it back, clean yourself and your place. A lot of times simple moves like that will alleviate some of the paine.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Just nap in the shower

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I don't know much about meds or why you are on them, but why don't you want to change them if they cleary make you depressed? I imagine the alternative is worse, otherwise you wouldn't take them. But try a management calendar. Make lists of things to do, including shower and make little goals for yourself. Establish a routine. Our bodies want routine. And you don't have to shower every day if you aren't working up a sweat. Maybe take relaxing baths instead. That way it's not about hygiene as much as it is relaxation therapy. And you just happen to get clean while you soak.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Are you unemployed as well? My routine is shower before work and always brush teeth before leaving house.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • I am not. I am a homemaker. I do a lot during the day but I don't usually go out. I don't need to and don't want to. I am working towards being healthy in general.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
Add A Comment