Is it normal for a girl to like anal more than vaginal?

Is it normal? I feel weird about this but I like anal more than vaginal... everything.

I like to be penetrated anally much more than I like it vaginally. I would rather have someone lick my anus than my clitoris or vagina, and I always want someone to finger my ass more than my vagina.

Its not that I dont like it around front but I dont desire it and it doesnt feel even half as good to me. A girl I fooled around with turned me on to anal and she was ok with it, and I have been in some one-night-stands with guys who have been ok or even loved to penetrate / lick me back there.

The problem is that in a relationship I have not had luck with it. One guy I dated for 3 months called me disgusting and gross when I asked him to lick me there! Others have not been as mean but they say they dont like it or its gross :(

I feel ashamed because its dirty and I hate to have people I like tell me Im sick or weird... I want to like vaginal more but I just dont get the same sensation, I cant help that I like it so much :(

Is it normal? Why does it even feel good it makes no sense there is no evolutionary purpose to it! Am I a freak?? why do I like it so much and what do I do? Please help!

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  • analisnormal

    That's a really interesting question regarding sex and I'll try to be as helpful and objective as I can.

    First of all, I think that the notion that something is or isn't normal is meaningless. There is no normal behaviour, just expected behaviour (which changes as we evolve as a species) and deviations from it. As long as sex is concerned I consider "normal" anything that someone enjoys, as long as it doesn't hurt anybody.

    Secondly, do NOT be ashamed of yourself under any circumstances no matter what other people say (as long as you're clean of course). And certainly DON'T wish or try to like vaginal more than anal. You have to accept your identity. It's like being gay and feeling sorry for yourself and trying to be straight. I mean, come on, we live in the 21st century...

    Thirdly, it may indeed have no evolutionary purpose, but your anus has other purposes that need to be pleasurable in order to be encouraged (you know, going to the toilet). In fact, the anus has much more nerve endings than a vagina, thus making it more sensitive. That's why anal sex can be much more painful or pleasurable then vaginal sex. Of course, the majority find it less pleasurable than vaginal sex, but that doesn't mean it isn't "normal". After all, birth control serves no evolutionary purpose and is still considered "normal".

    Lastly, all of the above stand for men too, and I'm not talking about gay men only. I myself am a straight guy and still like it when my girlfriend licks my ass or sticks a finger or two up there during sex. Of course, she loves anal sex as well, and finds it equally pleasurable to vaginal sex.

    To sum it up:
    1) No, you're not a freak. You're just different.
    2) You like it so much because it's pleasurable.
    3) You don't have to change anything. Just wait till you find the right guy. And believe me, there are tons of men who like anal as much or even more than vaginal sex for many reasons (one being that the anal sphincter is much tighter than a vagina). Actually, it's kind of ironic, cause usually (in my experience) it's men that like anal who have a hard time finding a girlfriend, not the other way around.

    That's it. Hope I helped.

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    • Thank you :) This is the most helpful and informative response I've gotten so far, and it did help me feel a bit better about it. I'm sure I'll eventually find someone compatible with me who also happens to be compatible sexually as well, I guess it just takes time. It's good to know that it's at least common enough to be understandable. Perhaps I just need to accept that I'm an anal fan and that I'll end up making someone else who is very happy!

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      • analisnormal

        I'm glad that you found the information helpful. And YES you deserve to feel good or at least comfortable with yourself and your lide choices.

        About finding the right guy though you should factor in that anal sex isn't equally common everywhere and also varies among different age groups. I don't mean to sound rude and I'm not looking for a girlfriend or anything, but how old are you? I mean if you are young or old enough it might explain your compatibility issues. Besides your age though, or the age of the guys you date for that matter, where you live also plays a role. There are many places where anal sex is still considered kind of a "taboo", while elsewhere it is practised regularly, aiding as birth control and also during pregnancy.

        I myself am 20 years old and quite a lot of people close to my age that I know of either engage in anal sex or have at least tried it. Of course I can't speak for the whole of Greece and not all my friends practise anal sex (a few of them even despise it), but you get the point.

        Good luck!

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      • eminopee

        Would've been nice if we were in the same city to give a relationship a shot. Not sure how compatible we'd be in other areas of a relationship but in this specific area we'd be completely compatible. This preference of mine seems to have been a downfall in my previous relationships and the partner tends to think it's something wrong with them when the opposite is true. There's nothing wrong with them or myself, it's just a preference. Vaginal intercourse does nothing for me. Hopefully we can both find a partner who enjoys it as much as we do. Cheers!

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      • derekgilbert1980

        I think you've been looking for me girl! Because I know I ve been waiting for a girl like you!

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  • hannahj03

    Probably not normal but there is nothing wrong with it. That's something that I would really be into. You just have to find a person that is accepting of that and isn't afraid of doing something a little "taboo."

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    • kingofthebigToe

      If you want to talk about it. Let me know if you have kik. Leave me your username on kik.

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  • naughtygirl19932017

    I let my neighbor put his dick in my butt sometimes when we are horny he is 3 years younger than me. In my vagina it feels ok but in my butt it feels so good. I laying on my side with my legs folded and I love the to get the hard dick up my butt like that I also like being on all fours on the bed with my head and face down and my butt in the air and I spread my butt open and he fucks me like that in my butthole.

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  • AchanHoneyfar

    me too , i love girl anus taste smell ,i dont love pussy anymore.bcz girl anus is so delicious than pussy.

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  • Bigboi_

    im a guy and i only get enjoyment from fucking a girls ass

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  • BIG-J-Here

    this is awesome and yo should never feel ashamed of this

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  • DoctorObjective

    As a practicing family medicine doctor, I want to provide another opinion and to commend you for your willingness to bring up and discuss an interesting topic that affects a lot more people than you might think. In regards to most issues involving some type of sexual experience, it is common for people to feel a variety of emotions including being embarrassed, shy, afraid, and even ashamed. As a result, such topics often are not discussed and remain unresolved, sometimes causing tremendous emotional and psychological turmoil that manifests itself in a variety of ways (including some signs or symptoms that may otherwise seem unrelated and go unnoticed). I would also like to commend many of the other contributors above such as "analisnormal" and "Audrina" whom have provided important and accurate comments in informative and reassuring manners.

    As alluded to above, our bodies have a fascinating amount of complexity involved with them. Although most people generally have the same organs and tissues as found in others, there are many slight to not-so-slight variances amongst how our bodies have developed. Often, we live with these normal variations in the exact design of our bodies our entire lives without being aware that anything might be different between our body and the body of someone else. In other cases, such variations may have dramatically life-altering effects.

    I'd like to provide some objective information to add to the discussion thus far. Multiple nerves are involved with innervating (creating/transmitting nerve "signals" from a region of the body to the brain by way of our nervous system) the male and female pelvic regions. Specifically, many of the sensations involving the anus come from branches of what is known as the Pudendal Nerve. As mentioned above, the quantity and distribution of nerve endings is what is responsible for the subtle differences in each of us and how certain stimuli are received and later interpreted by our brains. Also as noted above, there are great areas of overlap both when it comes to the innervations of various body regions as well as to which parts of the brain are affected. For many structures located within the abdomen and pelvis, different branches from a single nerve might "supply" the sensory portion of multiple areas. As a result, nerve stimulation in one location might lead to the perception that those signals came from a different region altogether. This is what is known as "referred pain" since the exact location associated with the origin of a nerve signal may be "felt" as if it were occurring in a different location.

    For example, for those whom have had the unfortunate experience of the excruciating pain involved with a "kidney stone," the locations of the pain and discomfort felt can vary significantly! As a stone first leaves the kidney to go into the ureter (a tube, located on both sides, that connects the kidneys to the bladder to allow for the passage of urine), one might feel pain in his or her mid to lower back or sides ("flank pain") since nerve branches innervating that part of the ureter come from the same nerve that gives off other branches to those locations you feel in your back/sides. Further, as the stone continues down the ureter, one might experience pain seeming to now be coming from the abdomen, and finally, as the stone approaches the lower portion of the ureter prior to reaching the bladder, the nerve branches to that part of the ureter go to the same nerve that gives off branches to the pelvic region and may feel as if the pain is coming from the testicles (for a man) or from the Labia Majora (for a female). With that concept covered, it's important to look at how the brain interprets pleasure.

    Just as mentioned by another member, certain regions of the brain (such as the "Nucleus accumbens") are associated with a pleasurable sensation when stimulated. However, many stimuli (sneezing, urinating, defecating, sex, etc.) can elicit a response in this region of the brain. The branches of the Pudendal nerve that innervate the anus are able to stimulate the pleasure centers in our brain. Stimulation of the anus can produce intensely pleasurable sensations in both men and women.

    Thus, as wisely stated above (and not speaking as a physician), I would suggest that you find a partner that shares your same interests (or is willing to accommodate your interests) rather than try to change your life, how you feel, what you like, or other aspects about you. If you have further questions, please feel free to ask.

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  • anon80

    Well, I just want to say that you're not a freak. I'm a guy and I absolutely love anal, even more than vaginal. I love licking there too, and even if you only wanted anal I would still be 100% happy sexually. And I'm not gay, I have absolutely zero interest on men.

    So don't lose hope; there are people like us out there. I just wished *I* could find somebody like you. ;-)

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  • Gelmurag

    I wouldn't have a problem if the girl I was dating/ in love with wanted anal all the time. Saves on birth control, and is just nice feeling. As long as she'd do it back to me. But I'd be perfectly fine if she only wanted me anally, as long as I'd get to occasionally finger her normally while doing anal.

    As for your evolutionary question, the area in general is flooded with nerve endings. I know some people that prefer anal over normal intercourse because of that. It just feels better to them. Nerves in that area are second in density only to our brains, so it makes sense that having a penis/vagina would cause some nerves to grow around the anus, and even feel good.

    You ask is it normal, yes it is. Just not generally spoken of. If the guys you are dating don't like it, seriously find another guy. And always, always remember, enemas will do wonders. And make for great foreplay.

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    • Well of course I let a guy touch my vagina and clit during it! It seems most comments nobody noticed that I said I still liked sensation there... Never had a guy want me to penetrate him? (I'm assuming strap-on?) but I have been asked to use a finger and duh, I do so :P (if he's clean!!)

      I didnt know that there were so many nerves around there, I suppose it makes some sense but still... I think my body was just put together backwards because WOW. Problem is I dont know if when Im getting to know a guy and dating I should just drop him because he doesnt like to do it?

      Is my sexual happiness more important?

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      • Gelmurag

        I can't give you advice about getting to know a guy and dump him because of it. Girls don't like geeky nice guys, so my experiences are limited for relationships. But if he can't meet a need of yours, thats a pretty good reason to dump him...

        Is your sexual happiness more important. Very few guys will say yes to this question. I don't care if I have sex at all, as long as the girl is happy. And I do whatever it takes to make her happy. But thats me, and 98% of the people I talk to seem to feel selfish about sex making them feel good. As example "I'm a boy, and i want to feel to good." In my case, it is "I'm a boy, and my job is to make you feel good."

        And yes, I meant using a strap-on, or even your own tongue.

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  • Audrina

    This is normal, it is just not typical. A lot of guys are ok with giving anal, ATM is probably what your partner is balking at. Maybe try and get a sense if they are open to it before you begin an intimate relationship with that person, like bringing it up casually during a sex related conversation. Sex is supposed to be fun, not a stressful event. You should not have to feel this way. Just keep looking, I think you will find someone that you are compatible with :)

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    • Sorry English isnt my first language, what is "ATM"? (Had to look up "balking" but ATM only gives "automated teller machine" and some companies)

      I guess its good to talk about what I like sexually first and I usually do! But if you really liked someone and they said they didnt like anal, would you really just dump them? I cant :(

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      • Audrina

        ATM is ass to mouth. If you are already in a relationship with someone that you love, would they be willing to compromise? If I was with someone that I had feelings for and was otherwise compatible with, I do not think I would be able to leave them for something like that either. On the other hand, sexual satisfaction plays a big role in a healthy intimate relationship. Maybe you can talk it out with your partner and the two of you can meet halfway.

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  • Ramit10

    Normal to the extent. You just need to come out in the relationship about it. Some guys like it once and awhile but all the time isnt a big turn on. I would be ok with it if it wasnt a all the time deal like once or twice a week thing.

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    • I mean I guess it makes sense and I usually try to be honest about it... I don't mind it being "every now and then" but it just bothers me that it feels better to me, doesn't make any sense that it would.

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  • Dad

    No not normal.
    Generally girls would prefer some vaginal pleasure as well.

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    • Helpful. *eyeroll*

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  • Space_Monkey

    I would like and make love to your ass all day! I love it and love it back too :P

    Yeah I'm a freak :P

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  • darren3

    As a guy I wouldnt mind as long as your ass is very clean

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  • bigtoy

    Hot...I'd date you - you sound loads of of fun! ;)

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  • Darkoil

    That is quite hot. Although I never feel anal is as good as vaginal, always a bit tight. But when im just fucking away i always tease with a few fingers and it goes down well most of the time.

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