Is it normal a mother to stay in room during her son's physical exam

I am a mother of a son who is not quite old enough to be getting too embarrassed about my presence in exam room during his physicals. That said, I feel it is perfectly appropriate for me to witness the whole thing. I want to make sure he is healthy and developing normally, and I may need to ask some questions as well. All visits included genital check at the end of the exam where the doctor usually pulls his underpants to his knees and conducts hernia and testicular examination. Since there is no shirm in the pediatric cabinet, this check has been done practically in front of my eyes. As I said above my son is not quite old enough to make a fus about that. To my great surprise, however, I too often see mothers entering the pediatric cabinet with their older sons who apparently have entered puberty and their son's behavior shows a huge discomfort and embarassement. I am curious to know if the examinations of the boys who are already in puberty is done in the same way as the examination of my pre-pubescent son and what is the age at which mother's presence in the room during the examination of her son is normal.

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75% Normal
Based on 12 votes (9 yes)
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  • dicka912

    Mothers should be with their sons during exams until they move out of the house. Parents need to know that their kids are OK.

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    • tearsOfLife

      Not true the Doctor will tell the mother or father when the examination process is completed although the son at the age of twelve or minimally thirteen should be able to choose if their parents get the information out not

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    • SpongeBobSquareBants

      As a teenager, how 'bout nope. You are literally in the room with a doctor. They will say if something is wrong, what are you providing in terms of knowledge on health that the doctor isn't? You are literally observing a process and waiting for the result, you have no part in either of them, except taking the result and dealing with it or whatever.

      Respect your child's privacy, if they want to be left alone, leave them alone.

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  • AndrogynousBoy

    It is kind of ok but from personal experience when I was already in teen years with functioning boy-part down there my mom used to come with me to health checks as well. Those health checks didn't involve pulling down panties and visually examining genitals but later on I did realize that my panties didn't fully cover my crotch from the side angle as in testicles were visible (was wearing classical briefs back then) and that realization made me feel a bit embarrassed that my mom and female doctor saw this.

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    • mrs_ladybird

      There is a huge difference between unintended incidental flashing of intimate parts and deliberate and planned observation of examination and manipulation in the genital area. Usually the first happens unexpectedly, and the surprise and confusion of the unexpected event prevails over the other accompanying feelings and senses. Typically, the feeling of shame and inconvenience comes to a full extent after the incident when participants in the event assimilate what happened. In these cases, a witness of such an incident is not able to look into the details and perceives the situation as a generalized picture without specific details. It is fundamentally different when the mother planted her presence in advance while the upcoming event was known to her son to the smallest detail thanks to previous visits. Taking advantage of the medical office policy and her parental authority, she can enter the exam room with her son and take a position from which to have an unobstructed view of the whole procedure. And this usually included genital check at the end of the exam where the doctor pulls the underpants to boy's knees and conducts hernia and testicular examination and retraktion of the foreskin for check for phimosis. Practically, due to the small size of the exam room from such a distance she can see just as much as the examining doctor. Although I exclude any sexual aspect or any perverse interest of the mother to the naked body of her son, this presence will inevitably cause discomfort and shame in the mind of the developing young man. And maybe a certain amount of excitement too?

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