Is it fine that i don't want to care for my parents when they're old?

When I eventually move out I want to go somewhere far away where I can rebuild myself. While I love my parents a lot, I just don't want to be near them anymore. I don't have the will to help them even though they raised me. I see my dad talking about having his parents move in so he can care for them and it's hard to want to do the same to them when they get old enough. I'm not sure how coherent this post sounds but I'd like to hear some insight

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  • GaelicPotato

    You're weak.

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  • KholatKhult

    It takes a strong person to care for the weak.
    At least you are acknowledging that you don’t have the strength for it.

    It’s too bad for your parents, it’d be nice if they had another child who was more capable.

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  • Unknown_player

    My mum expected of me the same but I don't want to and she knows that. Shes so petty she disowned of me for it. I think she really only had me because she wanted me to return the favor some day. I speak angrily of this because after much counseling I'm honest when I say this: she was abusive of me for years. To refuse should be my own choice. That person who called you weak for it, they shouldn't have felt right in saying so because everyone's situation is different. To call OP "weak" must be to call me weak and I don't sit well with that - why? Because I happen to think I'm a pretty STRONG person actually to have been able to put up with my mum's shit for so long to have been manipulated and mind fucked with everyday, I was still pretty STRONG in making that and sticking to my decision

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  • megadriver

    That's just wrong dude... They raised you and probably helped you out a lot in life. The least you can do is return the favor.

    I'm proud to say I will take care of my parents. Because I know how much love they have for me. I'm an only child, their only son and they would do anything for me and I would do anything for them.
    They raised me since I was a baby, did the best they could to make me into the man I am today. They always helped me in any way they could. Hell, my dad was even my part-time accountant and answered the phone for my business when I started out... He didn't have to do it, but he did. For 7 months straight, without pay. I did buy him a boat for his 60th birthday and I joked this was his salary XD

    My mom gave up on her career as a translator and part-time teacher to be at home for me and my dad. Every day I came home from school, she was there at the door with a smile on her face, a warm home cooked meal on the table and lots of love.

    I'd fly to Andromeda and back for my parents if I have to! Taking care of them in their old age is nothing compared to what they did for me.

    The only problem I would have is the emotional side of things... I know my parents ain't getting any younger, but it would tear me apart watching them live out their final days.
    Probably gonna start drinking a lot more then. I'm ok with accepting my death, but I do not want my parents to die.

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    Yeah I think that's fair enough. You have your own life to live, you're not just a retirement plan for your parents. You shouldn't have to feel guilty for that. Yeah they looked after you when you were a child but that was because that was their responsibility to, since they were the ones who decided to have you in the first place. Looking after a child you decided to create doesn't make you a fantastic person, it just makes you a decent person. So you don't owe them anything there really. You never agreed to be created and you never agreed to look after them in return. That doesn't make you a bad person, obviously you'll still love them and phone them and visit them often. So you're not being harsh in the slightest. I think expecting without doubt for someone to put their entire life on hold to look after you is appalling.

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  • Tealights

    You're not weak, or wrong for how you feel.

    Personally, due to their very difficult personalities/bad habits, I wont be taking care of my parents either when they are elderly. They are just too toxic, and I can't have my potential children grow up around that as I did. The most I'll do is find the best retirement home and pay as much money as possible to insure their safety and happiness; and I'll visit on important holidays and birthdays.

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  • Unknown_player

    Yea but true kindness is to do something without expecting compensation. Seriously, kids aren't maids so I'm glad you didn't have any

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  • --

    Old people are just a burden and strain on society.

    We should have a purge where one night every year we are allowed to hunt and kill old people.

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  • raisinbran

    Sucks having you as a kid... selfish.

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  • bigbudchonga

    It is your filial duty.

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  • Mammal-lover

    I wont take care of my parents. Fuck that. I got my own life to live.

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  • RoseIsabella

    How old are you? How old are your parents? If your folks are taking care of their parents right now there's a good chance that they aren't full on geezers yet.

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