Is it ever ok to lie to your partner

White lies yes. Normal ones depends on what it is, like lying about small shit is fine like watering her flower garden while shes out. Lying about your location is a dick move unless its solely for hanging out with friends then it's a lesser dick move.

If you don't count harmless white lies and keeping quiet about things that irritate but aren't really that important, I've only lied once in a serious relationship, and that was a lie of omission - not telling my wife about something that had happened because I knew would make her very upset.

It was my second marriage, and we were going through a slightly rough patch. My relationship immediately prior to meeting my wife had lasted about three years, and it had ended in an unsatisfactory way, with neither of us really wanting to break up, but us agreeing that external circumstances meant it would be better if we did. My wife and I were in a semi-long distance relationship at that point, with us only being together every second weekend and for a couple of months in the summer. This was long before facetime even existed, so the best we could do were nightly phone calls. I felt down one night, and got in touch with my ex - mainly, I'd like to believe, just to catch up with her. But one thing inevitably led to another, and we hooked up a couple of times.

I enjoyed it, not least because the woman was a lot more relaxed about sex than my wife, but I felt incredibly guilty. So I told the woman that I couldn't continue, and she was very understanding about that.

After that incident, my wife and I were happily married for nearly twenty years more and the marriage only ended when she died. I'm sure she never knew that I'd been unfaithful. I'm also sure that, given how things turned out, us being together made her final years a lot better than they might have been if I hadn't been with her.

My ex noticed the obituary notice for my wife, and she got in touch a few months later. We met up, and it was nice to see her again, but there was zero sexual chemistry. It felt to me like we'd worked out whatever we needed to work out, and that was that.

So, I guess the bottom line of all this is that I believe habitually lying about serious stuff is never a good thing in a relationship, but sometimes even very big lies don't have to matter if it's a one off thing, and about something that you need to get out of your system in order to better see the positive aspects of your relationship.

Sorry,
there are only a small percentage of couples that can share everything and no secrets.for the average couple you can not share everything because it will just cause a fight that men will not won.

Faking orgasms are okay. Lying to prevent insult is okay. Lying to hide the truth is bad. Unless it's about cooking. You do yourself no favors pretending to like bad food. Pretending to like an outfit is different.

I dunno, is it ever okay for your partner to lie to you?

It’s ok for me to lie to all humans

I'm currious... why would you want to be in a relationship where you felt that any lies other than that there's a surprise party next week (etc.) would be needed.

My wife and I don't need to lie about anything (including our fantasies). In fact, our first wedding vow was "Honesty in all things, except things like there is a surprise party next week."

Now we don't have to tell all either (unless specifically asked). But, lies kill relationships, and I've never seen a real relationship heal back to normal after one party is found to be lying.

Edited to add: Find someone who can handle the truth about who you are and what you do... and you also need to be able to handle the truth about who they are and what they do.

While the truth can hurt (and be very painful)... its a whole lot easier to deal with the issue and the pain, than to deal with knowing that the other person is not honest too.

If you do it so often, they may end up breaking up with you.