Is it ethical or morally ok to let he elderly die when they so choose?

If they are of sound mind and know what they want who are we to say no?

without getting political i do believe it should be their choice or when terminally ill.

I guess it’s their choice and that’s totally understandable. They can refuse help and meds they need. All you can really do is suggest doing the best thing for them but they choose.

I remember a big problem while my grandmother was on dialysis was having her cut back on pepsi and fluids in general but especially pepsi cause of how toxic it is and the fluids staying in her chest. She loved it and all we could do was try and tell her not to but it’s really on her and doctors would even say it’s truly her choice. It’s something that could greatly effect her. She’d still occasionally sneak it.

She’s refused surgeries that could have potentially helped at the time (although her heart is what gave out) but she did get talked into one surgery by a doctor that ended up not turning out to work and if anything did more harm. So even if it’ll benefit it’s their body and their choice what going on. Even if it’s simple things like refusing something that could be helping them that can lead to more harm it’s still on them for a possible opportunity of getting better. Which again sometimes refusing stuff isn’t always bad. But moral of the story they can refuse help if they want to or at least that’s what I’ve seen. And I think someones choice for themselves is okay sometimes we wish we could change things but people do for themselves you have your own voice for actions on yourself and I think that’s ok. If that answers your question.

I'm conflicted on the issue.

I think yes. They've lived everything they had to live if they chose that. It's also better than a slow painful agonizing death from not being able to breathe or having your heart stop.

Depends on whether life itself is more sacred than self-determination.

Most Western liberal culture and materialist worldviews would go for self-determination. It's a sort of outworking of consumerism: I paid for it, it's my property, it's at my disposal by law, and nobody can tell me otherwise. Except that you didn't pay for it, and law pales into insignificance in the face of the gaping abyss that is death.

Many theists, believing that life is not intrinsically the property of humans but the property of a Giver of life, and lent or gifted to humans, would say that choosing to end it is a mark of disregard for both the Giver, and the gift. They would also say (with some non-theists) that a tree doesn't just fall in the eye of the beholder: it falls whether it is observed or not; that the whole world exists outside of the subjective experience of the individual and will leave him/her behind one day. They would therefore put human subjectivity in its metaphysical place, below reality itself and not above it, and say that life and death are more powerful and existentially weightier than the fallible, internally-conflicted decision-making processes of a moment, or three, or four, and so it is a flagrant disregard of the order of things to treat them as a commodity you can order or cancel with a yes or a no - and one that could lead to a future reality that we would bitterly regret if we sanctified this disregard and let it become a part of our culture.

If it’s their choice then it’s ok to let them die or kill them. In some cases assisted suicide should be an option

Regardless of my age, if I get a terminal illness, I'd like to go naturally. In saving the elderly, I think that it's crazy how much donated blood gets used on old people who should be dead. I loved my grandparents immensely. They were my best friends. My grandpa had a DNR but they resuscitated him anyway and he was a vegetable for 2 months. My grandma was mentally nonexistent and you could tell she was hurting and my mom gave her a muscle relaxer to help her pass. I think people are obsessed with staying alive and that it's terribly unnatural.

If I get alzheimers when I'm sixty I'm calling off my life when I start to lose myself.