Is it a right move?

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I’m in college and I have a friend (female ) that we decided to get in a friend with benefits relationship , So after a while I realized that she has feelings and she loves me so hard So i decided to end this by telling her that our relationship is not good to her so i tried hardly to be just classmates but after month i realized that she cant even see me just as a classmate( she cries everyday just because I treat her like just a classmate) so i decided that we shouldn’t talk to each other ever again and block her from every social media so that she could forget me and move on and find a man who share her the love. Now she really hate me and think I am a person who played her feelings and destroyed her heart.
What do you think about my last move is it the right decision? I feel my heart is heavy when i see her broken like that.

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JellyBeanBandit

4 years ago

I think that's the right move so long as you were sensitive and compassionate and empathetic about ending it.

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- Qwertyps99
  
  4 years ago
  
  Thank you for sharing you thoughs , wish you the best
  
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  - JellyBeanBandit
    
    4 years ago
    
    No problem, you too :)
    
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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

What did you expect? People can't help their feelings, and sex has a tendency to cause a lot of people to catch feelings. You basically just used her, and threw her away like the massive douchebag you are, dude.

What goes around comes around, someday you'll meet a girl who drives you wild, and she'll let go you when you catch feelings.

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- Qwertyps99
  
  4 years ago
  
  To be honest she was my best friend ever despite of the benefit relationship it is really hard to treat someone that was really close to me like that , but the situation forced me to do that. I realized that its impossible to be just a friend with her bcz she will keep fighting and faking her feeling that will destroy her one day. A very hard decision but someone had to do it and forced her to deal with it and i hope one day she will know the good side of what I did in the future
  
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Nikclaire

4 years ago

She'll get over it.

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Unknown_player

4 years ago

It's better than leading her on and the reality is that having a FWB is a complicated thing in itself sometimes people catch feelings, I think it would be better to have a 1 night stand with a stranger even if its putting me at risk of STDs (well easy: wear a condom haha) rather that than a character acting like a crazy ex whom I haven't even actually dated lmao

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DIO

4 years ago

You didn't want to date her? Why?

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- Qwertyps99
  
  4 years ago
  
  Because we don’t share the same feelings. I see her like just a friend nothing more than that
  
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FromTheSouthWeirdMan

4 years ago

I personally think it was cold to block her like that. I dont know enough details but from what you have wrote I believe it was wrong. I would have tried to talk her through it more. I know it's not your responsibility to pamper her ass but if you truly were her friend and not just using her for sex you would continue to be her friend and work it out. That is why she feels used because she thought yall were friends and you cut her off quick.

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- Unknown_player
  
  4 years ago
  
  In a bittersweet sense he cut her off since he saw her attachment to him was unhealthy she wouldn't have moved on if it weren't for that little push, she will always have feelings for him if they have history and they are friends and she might even try to test the friendship by being really flirty or unwanted advances /romantic gestures that OP made clear he doesn't want her to do
  
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- Qwertyps99
  
  4 years ago
  
  Tried every way to avoid this step but she eventually gets back to the same situation( crying , wants to end her life ).
  She knows that my move will help her but she doesn’t have the courage to deal with it. At the end i talked to her again and apologized for the blocking and the way I am treating her and made her feel better with no hard feelings then we wished the best for each other then told her I’m blocking her again to avoid any communication and she is fine with it.
  
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- Qwertyps99
  
  4 years ago
  
  Well, we talked and she understood why I have did it in that way to avoid her from contacting me during her weakness. and apologized for her and she is fine with it no hard feelings and we both wished the best for each other in the last
  
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  - FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    
    4 years ago
    
    Good man
    
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Mammal-lover

4 years ago

Bad idea dnm bad idea. However at the end of the day theres no good way to treat this type of situation. Just blocking someone like that though is bad. That feels like abandonment. I beilive you did what you thought was best in a lose lose situation.

If you get grief from people just be honest. You were close friends but she wanted way more than you could give and in your best efforts to help her move on you did what you did.

Truthful enough without going into any details that could tarnish reputations or anything.

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- Qwertyps99
  
  4 years ago
  
  Tried my best to help her but she always find a way to get close to me or talk to me especially we r in the same college and group. She told me that in the future she will get over it and grow up and thinks that her feelings will change but i think this all a lie (she is living with fake hope ). She just want to live the day happy without seeing what will happen in the future and how harder it will be. She is young and my presence in her live even as a classmate can block her from other ones that can find the true love with. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wish you the best
  
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  - Mammal-lover
    
    4 years ago
    
    That's definitly not s easy spot man. I would say just let it be. Theres not much you can do
    
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john66669

4 years ago

man girls develop feelings and honestly if you have a girl loyal honest a devoted to you it would be foolish not to see if it could work i'm playing the field to which is great but i was way happier when i had a relationship

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mandownunder

4 years ago

Should just bone the hell out of her man.. grow a new pair.. your only young once!!

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