Is face fucking really normal?

You know how you see this in porn videos all the time now, guys holding the girls by the head and forcing them to deep throat really hard until they are gagging and choking or it makes them puke? The girls usually look like they're in pain and torment and obviously don't want it at all and are just doing it for the money. I find it depressing. Very demeaning and cruel.

This surely isn't normal outside of porn, right? I really hope that it isn't. For one I'd like to think that most guys out there wouldn't want to treat the women in their lives like that, and two that women in the real world wouldn't put up with that. But being the pessimist I am I'm not too sure about either, especially when it comes to my own generation.

I've heard on several occasions guys saying they want to face fuck their girl like in those videos, and I've heard girls complain their boyfriends pushing their head down and gagging them and don't understand why... I really hope those stories aren't an indication of this becoming "normal".

Someone tell me this is just a bad porn trend and not a worse sign of the times?

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  • Allpinkeverythiing

    i love my face fucked i love guys to push my head down and make me suck doesnt matter where were at idk i just love being forced to suck dick

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    • reno93

      Really?

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  • FocoUS

    Watch asian porn it tends to be more tender. No, not hentai live action asian porn. Or that kama sutra stuff.

    It seems a lot of American porn is circled around disrespecting women.

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  • Gelmurag

    8 out of every 9 guys are assholes. Girls usually have some type of abuse happen to them, and shrug it off as if nothing happened. Overtime they say its normal, and things get worse. But when they bring the problem to forums for help, they are in such denial that even the simple answer "leave him" makes her become really defensive.

    Girls just need to become smarter, and more cautious.

    Facefucking is a type of abuse. There is nothing normal about forcing someone to do something that would otherwise cause them pain or harm. Unfortunately with the above said 8/9, and the advent of the internet making cruel porn very accessible, guys think that type of thing is normal.

    I can only think of one girl I know personally, out of about 80, that likes anything rough. And her preference with her fiance is hair pulling and knives. That doesn't float my boat, but she's always in control of the dangers. No means now, not in 2 minutes, not in 15.

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    • kountry

      somebody explain to me how consensual sex between two people regardless of how they perform the act is abusive. you all sound like a bunch of morons.if you force someone to commit a sexual act without consent its called rape.but being face fucked because you and your spouse is into it ,is not.

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      • Because some actions are simply abusive. Any time you are doing something to inflict pain on another person, you are abusing them. If a guy aggressively shoves his dick down a girl's throat, that is an infliction of pain, an act of malice. Don't think so? Try taking a cucumber and start shoving it deep down your own throat and you'll see what it feels like.

        If a girl says "go ahead and face fuck me", it simply means she's not against being abused. Not unlike if she said "go ahead and punch me in the nose", he could do that all he wanted. But would it not be abuse? Of course, it's still physical abuse.

        Face fucking is an act of abuse that has been glorified by porn. It's supposed to be sexy for us to watch a woman suffer sexual violence, they want her to choke, they want to see tears in her eyes, all the visual cues to indicate that she suffers greatly. That is what this all stems from. Violently eroticized expressions of male supremacy over women.

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    • YourBiggestFans

      You are an ignorant sexist pig

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    • FocoUS

      Never liked the idea of face fucking but I didn't know it was actually abuse. I'm enlightened.

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  • AgainstTheGrain

    I don't think it's a "normal" thing. But I know it's not wrong. Why?! Because I love it. My man has never had it before and boy do I love pleasuring him. He never brought it up and although I've seen it (and I'm sure h has too) I never brought it up as well.

    But I feel I give him the best head and sex he's ever had, so with that, we slowly grew into each other more and more. Getting more and more sexually comfortable. At that point we just gradually moved to different things. Experimented more. Butt plugs, bed restraints. I've always loved the idea of rough kinky sex, DEEEEP theoating and facefucking..but never had someone willing.
    One day I felt like I graduated in "sucking dick" school.
    I had been trying to work on my gag Reflex for awhile and I was getting really good at extreme deep threat. After being on our sides facing each other and kissing and caressing, he asks me so sweetly to feel my lips (on his weewee) . And I instantly say yes. As I'm inching down still giving him kisses as I go he's bending on his side almost into a fetal position. It's so cute cause I know he just doesn't want to stop kissing my lips.

    When my mouth touches his member that's when he'll reel back and you'll hear him make the most satisfying moan a women who "loves to please" could hear.

    Eventually I'll play around with my gag reflex to see if I can mentally tell my throat to relax. It works sometimes. But today was different. I slowly start going faster and harder. For the people who say it hurts or looks like it does...It doesn't hurt, sometimes it'll get soar but the act doesn't hurt... And it's invigorating. Only when I push past this lip in the back of throat does my airway get blocked with both my nose and mouth. So at some points I'm actually holding my breath for quite some time.

    he feels me getting more into it especially when I'll grab his ass and feed into his want to thrust, or his want to grab my face. I can feel it like it's my own emotion. It's crazy.

    He'll grab underneath my chin near my throat so he can feel himself and one right on the back of my head. I just concentrate on not letting his dick push air down my throat because it's cause me to burp and that's really not good. Especially when the saliva starts coming. Heavy! When it starts getting too messy tho he knows when to stop. He'll grab the sides of my face and bring me to him and give me the sweetest kisses on my lips cheeks and neck, he'll say sweet things to me, sometimes he'll hug me. But then I take a few breaths and in the softest voice I'll ask him, "do you want more, daddy?" And he'll say "yes babygirl" and we'll do it a few more times till hes borderline crazed and flips me into a pretzel with my legs over my head, on his shoulders, pressed to my chest, and he beats this pussy so good.

    I've done that and then bent my ass back for him to eat it...awkward position...but it worked.

    Or hanging of the bed backwards and him inserting into my mouth while standing...he can play with my whole body. And his dick is in the right position to perfect slide down my throat. Sometimes I'll open my airway so he can go into my throats and when he's in I'll start swallowing on his dick. He goes insane.

    I love it, and I love him. He deserves it. I don't "get off on it". Or maybe I don't really know the full meaning of that phrase. It does turn me on but not the same if he were to breathing on my neck and talking dirty. But it satisfies me.

    Haven't seen anyone post a personal story. Thought I'd might give some insight to someone who doesn't maturbate or watch porn, but will let the man that I love, do what he pleases to my body and visa versa.

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    • funnystuff_69

      It only abusive if he's forcing you and he goes to deep and you are clearly in pain. If its consensual and he is making sure your limit is not overpassesed it is not abusive. If he is Clealy making you uncomfortable and its not consensual its abusive and rape. While people should be weary of sexual oppressorswe should not slip into judgment. Their is a fine line

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  • the0com

    My girl is really into facefucking. She likes when I grab her head (sometimes she puts my hand in her head), and like when I force into her throat. The sound when she gags is amazing. It's fucking intimate and loving.

    Why don't you try too?

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  • paul87

    As a male, I find they do it in most porn is practically like rape. That turns me off! Sex should never hurt or even be unpleasant. OTOH I enjoy what I'd call gentle facefucking in which I simply thrust in and out slowly and don't force my way. Essentially I'm describing isn't much different than a BJ except I'm in control of the motion. That kind of thing turns me on. It's very visual and feels absolutely great. If it becomes a deepthroat AND my wife is prepared for that and doesn't mind AND it's not forced AND done with love and care, I don't see the problem. And of course I always first want to make sure she has her own pleasure so everything is mutual. It's when you are hurting the other person that it becomes very bad IMO.

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  • NONtoxicRaver

    I think you are trying to force your opinions on others. My girlfriend is really into this stuff. She specifically told me that she gets really turned on by it and once a guy (me) to be super aggressive with her. And I know what you're going to say, that she is saying that to impress me.
    I am a strong christian with my own dad being a priest and I made it very clear that I only want to have sex with the one I love and want that to be the only person I have it with but we still discuss our turn ons. I told her I am more into the sensual stuff - yeah I ain't lying. I like going easy but I told her that I could get into anything that makes her happy but it would take a while to build up for me to be comfortble because I don't want yo hurt her. She is into rape roleplay. I am fine with extreme things too but only as long as she is having a good time. And we are no where near doing anything like this. As she knows that I am not ready. Yeah there's guys that like to wait.

    You like to use the example of the cucumber, but let's remember, people are into different things. She WANTS somebody to take control. It's the same thing as people getting into anal or bdsm stuff. Just because you are not into it doesn't mean every girl feels the same way. Don't push your feelings onto others.

    However I do agree with your statement that men seem to want to inflict pain onto women and that is not okay. Most women probably are not into rough sex like that but they are out there. In fact, she was terrified that she would send me running when she told me. Some women want this. It's not rape as long as there is consent and she is having FUN.

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  • hadtocomment

    I signed up for this site because I searched and read this post. I was curious as a new woman i am dating asked me to pull her hair and facefuck her. She says she loves this. It caught me off guard as my experiences have usually been "let me do it" and they work it down their throat not force it down. I am enjoying though and have never been turned on by facefuck porn. Just had to comment. Lucky me I guess?

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    • notasign

      Unlucky her. Girls say that stuff to impress guys. You actually think she would like that? Try taking a cucumber and start ramming it down your throat until you gag, then tell me how much you think she really "loves it".

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      • jduda01

        Ok I signed up for this site just to respond to this. I'm a girl and I actually reallyy love getting facefucked. I think about it a lot because I think it's probably strange but it turns me on to have a guy take control and push me around for his pleasure. I am a very outgoing and confident girl out of bed so this is fun for me. And I almost exclusively watch facefucking porn. I have no idea why it turns me on so much but it does. So just know that it is often consensual and is not exclusively bad.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    I LIKE it when my man grabs my head and pulls me down a bit.

    I mean he's careful to not go deeper than I'm willing to take him. But I like the feel of his hands gripping me in passion.

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    • notasign

      Well that's a bit different then. He's isn't forcibly shoving you down to deep throat to the point you choke and gag is he? I'm sure you wouldn't like that.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

        And the women in the video the OP described... are paid to do this.

        It's not as if they signed up for a soft porn and got a big surprise of a cock down their throats. if it's a professional porn then the women signed up for exactly what happens.

        As for "degrading women"....

        These days WOMEN are in control. Women earn more money than men. Women run their own porn companies.

        Just because some other woman is offended does NOT mean the gender is "degraded". What it really means is that a woman is personally offended at another woman's life choices and has decided to project her personal opinion on the entire gender as if all women feel - or should feel - the same way.

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        • notasign

          Firstly, I am the OP.

          You're not seeing the point. It's not about the personal choices of the women involved in it that I have a problem with. It video is a depiction of a woman being violated and put through physical abuse, while her distress is not only shown but bragged about. It is about what that video shows and represents that is degrading, violent, and abusive to women. That's the only thing that matters when the images are being used to arouse and masturbate to.

          I find very disturbing the message that its sending and how it is received and responded to, especially by the young men watching it. That abusive and demeaning behavior like that towards women is sexy and desirable, and somehow perfectly normal and okay to women. I've heard guys talking about wanting this or having done it before, and young women who've dealt with it, so you can't say it doesn't affect regular people. Porn is having a bigger influence on people than ever and its things like this that are worrying.

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          • redorange1084

            Why are you assuming so much.
            Fine if you don't like it and no one should force you to.
            I don't watch porn myself, but I have had many encounters with women who prefer rough sex. Maybe people who tend to take a dominant and submissive role end up together?

            It surprised me at first as I am not a manly manly chad type. My wife of 8 years brought this up slowly, nothing was unnatural she simply enjoyed oral and it evolved from there as we both became more comfortable.

            I'm not sure if more rough sex is something you should attempt if are not completely comfortable with the other person. But if you are, they should understand what you enjoy and what you do not, how far to go, et cetera et cetera. I do not see this as remotely demeaning, but simply an expression of trust and intimacy.

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          • newyorkyankees

            so, you are saying those in these "videos" are alright, they are agreeing to the situation, and are even getting paid. but the main point is that they agree.

            now, what your problem is, now that we cleared up what you said, is that you dislike the fact that it is degrading, it is nasty, its "different". You have a problem with guys shoving anothers throat down, because its forced? (seen by you being alright with the female who said she likes it, so as long as its not forced). Now, the original title is "is this NORMAL". As long as its not "forced", as long as the female is agreeing, you are alright with it. So its then normal, the act of FF is normal as long as its not forced.

            Thus, the original question is answered.
            Is face fucking normal? Yes

            Is forced face fucking normal? of course not

            please dont mix two things up just because you dont like a situation

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

            *shrug*

            maybe it's me but it seems you're saying contradicting things.

            first you claim you don't mind what the women choose
            but then you say you hate how they depict the act... the act that the women *chose* to be a part of.

            if they chose this... it's their choice.
            i still say that claiming an entire gender is "degraded" by what sex acts a woman agrees to is.... meh. i don't see it.

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            • notasign

              For example, I certainly wouldn't be in favor of any movie with a message about how women were all stupid and worthless. And if they somehow got women to participate in such a film (which I'm sure they could), they're participation wouldn't change the fact that the movie is a demoralization of women in general. It's purpose is to send that message and entertain those who agree with it.

              This is basically the same idea as with this kind of pornography. A film or product that intends to send a message of degradation does so whether you personally find it offensive, or not.

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        • hadtocomment

          I hear ya

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