Iio that i hate my parents?

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I came out to my parents over a year ago about the fact that I am trans (ftm), and they still haven't even remotely accepted me. Look, I get it's not an easy thing, but I bought men's deodorant with my own money and never even wore it in the house, and my mom still threw it out without talking to me. Every time I try to confront either one of them, they don't want to talk about it and any conversation that happens ends in the same result of them getting pissed.

I haven't said anything that should even remotely make them feel like I don't understand their point of view. I have said many times I know it's hard, I don't expect them to accept me fully/right away, etc. But no, nothing, not even them trying to say things like "beautiful" less. In fact, they call me feminine things more now.

My parents are fine when celebrities are gay or trans, but then when it's someone they know, oh no - shun it away!

I suppose I don't hate them, I'm just so insanely pissed at them and I'm done with it. Moving out isn't an option either, so please don't suggest that. Also, don't say "transgender isn't a real thing," your opinion won't change how I feel and I'm sick of ignorant comments.

Is this normal or am I overreacting?

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  • Elixis
    6 years ago

    Your parents are not only not accepting the fact that you're who you are but also seem to reject you as you are.
    It really sucks when your own parents don't support you in big things like this and it's definitely not an overreaction to feel really mad at them for it.
    It's pretty unfair that they're also going as far as to throw away things you buy yourself too. It's going to take a LOT of effort for them to adjust to the fact that you're a male.

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  • Solomama
    6 years ago

    Your parents are having to come to terms with the fact their daughter isn't comfortable in her own skin and has decided to take the massive step which involves lifechanging and invasive surgeries and medications which carry serious and long term health risks.

    Basically, they can't come to terms with it, not right now.

    If you were my child watching lots and lots of you-tube videos and convincing yourself that this was the solution, I wouldn't accept it either.

    I'd be devastated. All the hormones, risky surgeries, never having children, the attention you'll get, the change of character that goes with hormones. The risk of cancers, osteoporosis. 6 or 7 surgical procedures, the surgical revisions you'll probably have to have ....

    Transgender is serious life changing and risky.

    givw them some understanding too and they might be more understanding themselves

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    • petrichorstatic
      6 years ago

      thank you, i understand all of this. it just gets really frustrating when i feel really alone.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Just dont deal with them. im not trans. but i think if you want to be diffrent their is nothing wrong with that. if they still dont like you for it tell them to get over it. its your life not theirs

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