Is it normal women friend zone the good guys but chase the bad one and get shat on?

Pardon me, but I've NEVER asked, "where the old men are gone".

I'm guessing you're the "good guy"? You're kind of doing the same thing - focusing on what "bad" girls do instead of looking for the good ones, then wondering why you're disappointed / "friend zoned".

IMO:
"Bad boys" are typically good looking. And they're assholes because they ARE good looking and can get any girl they want because (yes) some females are stupid by Lust - not Love! So she will do whatever it takes to be with him no matter wat they go thru...
"Good Guys" aren't the best looking so might not attract that many women so when he does come across one he'll do anything in his power to please that woman (even if he knows he getting played)

so if yhu don't respect yourself, why should i. Is kinda the whole outlook on both situations.

Bad boy = unpredictable = excitement = dopamine = more likely for her to want to seek him out. It's that uncertainty thing. He's also likely more of a challenge.

Good guy = sure thing, perhaps? She has a higher probability of seeking him out for a long term relationship after playing around with the bad boys. He's predictable, stable, safer, more reliable.

I'm kind of just going on generalized stereotypes here, lol. A good guy can be a "bad boy" too.

Really, who someone wants depends on motivations, compatibility, and attraction.