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Whenever people talk about certain serious issues without any proof they’re suffering from them I assume they’re lying or exaggerating for attention and it pisses me off, IIN?
Regardless, even if you do, I wouldn't make it known to the person, because you could be wrong and make the situation worse for that individual.
No, it's not normal.
Well if they’re gonna put it out there for public commentary I usually check their discrepancies
Why? What has happened to you in your life to make you so paranoid and guarded about showing empathy to others?
You come off as someone who was harmed at least once, or didn't have others there for you when you needed them. Everyone needs someone, and sometimes a person is stuck in a situation where they need to scream into the void for help because they feel there is no other choice, even if that means reaching out to complete strangers online for help and comfort. There's a lot of that online. There's tons of support groups online. It's normal for humans to group together and want to support each other. To not have that is a terrible feeling, and even more terrible when you are rejected, have your trauma picked apart, and called a liar.
If you have nothing nice to say, do not say anything at all.
“You come off as someone who was harmed at least once, or didn’t have others there for you when you needed them.”
and what’s wrong with that?
OP, everyone needs someone. I'm sorry you didn't have someone there for you when you needed them. I know how that feels. I know you won't trust me because I'm someone behind a computer screen, but I truly do understand that feeling.
I wish you had been cared for better when you needed it. More compassion is definitely needed in the world.
Yup, this is exactly my same thought process. I always assume people are telling the truth, because what’s the worse that could happen if I’m wrong ? I got fooled online ? Big deal.
I’d rather be a fool than someone who feeds negativity to those who are already struggling.
Somebody shouldn't even be talking about their problems to pixels on a screen from the get-go.
This ^ or at the very least they should expect a variety of reactions by asking random strangers.
That's true. But OP, *YOU* have the self control to not be a jerk to people who may be going through a difficult time and may not have someone in real life to reach out to. There are many people with social issues who have difficulty making connections outside of online.
For you, *YOU specifically*, to be cruel and lash out at them is immature and unnecessary.
I assume you're an adult but I think you need to hear something we teach people when they're kids:
"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."
Well, this is the Internet, and people lie on it all the time, so it's definitely wise to take things you read on here with no proof, with a grain of salt. However, I wouldn't get too emotionally invested in it and get mad about it, because it's just random people spouting off. Whether their issues are real or not, or whether they're being genuine or not, we'll never know, but it's best to just move on if it sounds melodramatic and not waste any energy on it. Life is too short to allow people you don't even know to rent space in your head!
My mentality is that, regardless of whether they're lying or not, I'm impacted in no way at all. But they could be. If they're just attention seeking then whatever, but if they're being serious then they could actually benefit from genuine input. I'll never meet anyone I respond to, but something I said could help someone. If it does then cool, I won't know. Trolls, attention seekers and the like shouldn't stop me from offering friendly advice under the possibility they actually need it ya know?
That is a little naive.
I’m sure plenty are, but there’s always a bunch who likely aren’t.
How do we know you're not lying or exaggerating about your problem where you think everybody online lies or exaggerates about their problems ya dog
You seem to have both trust and honesty issues.
While some people do lie, many others do not.
I do not automatically assume something posted online is true or false, I look at the story and consider if it makes sense. I give the benefit of the doubt unless it appears obviously made up.
I kind of get not trusting them. These people are just words behind a screen that you'll never meet in real life, so they could easily be lying. Though getting angry over it isn't really normal because there's also a chance that they're not lying about their bad situation and legitimately want someone to help.
Yeah that’s true but certain things I can believe more than others. For example a lot of people lie about DID (multiple personalities) these days because it’s trendy. Or claim to have gone through some horrible trauma while having no affects from it, which i know is possible, but it’s far more likely they’d lie or exaggerate for attention.