Is it normal to..want to say no to a visitor to keep my relaxed mood?
One of my long-time friends, an old college roommate, wants to visit tonight after he's done skiing, and, for the second week in a row..I want to say no (I did last week, but had a family gathering, so wasn't home anyway..A valid reason), since I'm in one of those rare, but so nice, relaxed, weekend moods and don't want to kill it.
He's tough to take at times..Ok, usually. Slams everything and everyone he doesn't know or understand, always makes these immature suggestions about what to do, passive-aggressively insults people I know when we go to the sports bar to eat, and will have me check FB pages of everyone he knew in college, which, while fun on occasion, he does all the time, usually in the morning when I get up early and do some work online before he gets up. Will come into my home office and say look up this one, that one..The same people. It's like he never advanced, mentally, past our sophomore year of college, if that. And i'm the one who has to deal with it.
Part of me says stop being selfish, he doesn't visit that often. Winter is actually the most, since he's occupied on weekends during the Summer with volunteering at..No surprise..A college radio station. And, part of me says..If you want him to visit, say yes, however..Nobody should dictate my own schedule or desires. The last time he visited, I was literally getting faster heartbeats in the morning, raising my BP. I can't have that again.