Is it normal to want to leave your group home if the people do your head in

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I live in a group home. My parents are elderly. There's nothing wrong with the food in the home, most of the staff are lovely.

BUT
I live with 22 people but get on with 3
an ex-soldier
a head-injured man covered in tattoos with a horror fixation and 1,000 girlfriends (in his head!)
a man who cries with happiness when he sees me. He can't speak, nobody else bothers with him

i've been here for 6yrs. the other residents tell me what to do ALL THE TIME. everyone seems to behave exactly how they like.

They tell me:

1.not to ring as the staff are busy

2. to wear a proper coat when I go down the shop (I wear cloaks as they are a lot easier to get on and I love going to historical/fantasy things)

3. not to go down said shop as it's cold

4. not to leave papers/magazines on the table (1 of the few I get on with likes to look at them, he looks forward to it all day)

5. they block my way when i'm dying to go to the toilet. This is not a great idea.

6. when I say anything back (politely) 1 of them does this horrible, ear-splitting screech & whines “don't have a go at me, WAAAAAAAAAHHH!!!”

said tattooed man has threatened to end my life countless times as I have a gargantuan psychopath fetish, which he knows about, i am starting to wish he would actually end my life as i feel sick when i go into the lounge.

to move would mean I'd be likely to end up somewhere worse & no visits from parents/beloved border collie.

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    What kind of group home is it? The environment seems a little oppressive & dysfunctional to say the least.

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  • lordofopinions
    6 years ago

    Do they have councilors there? If so then talk it over with them. They will keep things confidential and how to keep sane with these people around you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    I'm sorry you are living in a group home. I think I'd rather die than be in your shoes. I don't mean that in a mean or insulting way, I just prefer to be alone. I moved halfway across the country for the second time in two years to live with my elderly parents, and sometimes I feel like a big kid. I wouldn't mind if my parents outlived me to tell you the truth. I personally hope they both live to be over 100 years old.

    While I don't know your personal diagnosis, and it's honestly none of my business, I very much feel for you, and your situation. I honestly don't think I could handle what you are describing. I think I do in fact owe you a debt of gratitude for sharing this post with us, because it's probably just what I needed to hear as I certainly don't appreciate my folks enough for allowing me to once again come home to them. I hope I can manage to be more grateful, and try harder to improve my life. Right now I'm struggling with near debilitating depression, anxiety, PTSD and a personality disorder. I hope I can go back to college again, because I basically had to completely drop out last semester, because of the hurricane, my ex convincing us that we needed to move, and the ugliness of the afternoon of September 9th, 2017. I dunno if I can ever get financial aid again which makes me really sad, I guess I will try again someday. I have also thought of trying to make some money by means of video blogging. Anyway enough about me.

    Thank you very much for your post, and once again I am truly sorry that you have to endure this. I wish you all the best!

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