Is it normal to want space from your sister if she acts like this?

I’m also the author of the story asking if you get annoyed by people who always asks for rides. I had my sister in mind.

She’s 30 and doesn’t have her license. She often asks for rides by she dosen’t want to bother her husband. She’s made me late for a meeting, texted me at work if I give her for something months in advanced, and reminds me about daily.

I’m a 25 year-old-male, she somehow expects to text to if I go somewhere, looks at my text messages when I’m around her, she’s just annoying person who can’t accept no. It’s made me hate having her for sister, and truly I would rather be dead than be around her.

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Based on 15 votes (11 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • Ummitsme

    She is simply using and abusing your familial relationship. Don't enable. She can get her own license and personal transportation. Or she can ask her husband. Or uber or take the bus. You Don't owe her transportation. Your life and time is of value. Don't let her guilt trip you. It does nothing to benefit either of you in the long run if you sacrifice your self to transport her places.

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    • I agree it’s really not my problem if she can’t get her liscense. If she’s afraid to drive, she could at least try to drive locally. I just can’t stand being seen as the one she can come to when she doesn’t want to bother her husband. I’ve talked to her about this problem, though I’ll admit I was angry when we spoke, but she also had the nerves to say I don’t do much for her! Besides driving, I watch her pets on the weekend she’s gone, which includes giving her cat medicine! I don’t know what made her some entitled.

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  • redrainbow22

    Stop allowing her. It's as simple as that.

    Put your fucking foot down already.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    Just like the top comments say, all you have to do is refuse. Not anyone's fault but her own that she can't drive.

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  • CDmale4fem

    So tell her to call her fucking husband. Unless she hates him and he's no good in bed to satisfy her needs. But really, where is your phone when she looks at it ? Do you know how to set your phone to IGNORE all texts and calls from her ? It's not hard to do. Or just block her. She will get the hint after a bit. But she would get the hint better if you would grow a pair and tell her what you said here. Tell her, you are not her private taxi. There are taxis she can call for a ride. Remember this "Someone can only do to you what you ALLOW THEM TO". Other than that tell her to go to court house and work on getting her license back. Unless she had chili's or something medical. Or maybe she has times to pay, then she's just being lazy and this way she doesn't have to pay her insurance. She will let you use yours to shuttle her around. Enjoy, tell her to pay you for taxi service. And on the phone thing, our a lock code in it, and tell her to leave your duck in phone aline. It's nunaher fucking business what or who is in your phone or where or when your going somewhere.

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  • Ellenna

    You really need to learn to put your own needs first and say no. It will be hard at first and you may cop shit not only from her but from others, but stand strong and keep reminding yourself that you owe her nothing, in fact it's the other way round with all the things you've done for her. You're just too nice for your own good!

    She's using you and she has no respect for you. Practice saying "No, I don't want to do that" and walking away: don't get sucked into explanations or excuses or justifications, just keep repeating that you don't want to do whatever it is she believes she's entitled to from you: she's not.

    Good luck! This is a very difficult situation because you're obviously a nice person and it's hard to break a pattern like this, but let's face it, she's not going to change it, it's up to you

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    • Thanks! I’m not sure why others downvoted you.

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      • Ellenna

        I don't know who downvoted me or why and I don't really care, I do hope you can change this situation with your selfish sister

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  • RoseIsabella

    Distance yourself from her.

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    I presume everyone clicked 'No', mistakenly thinking that the question was asking whether your sister's behaviour is normal or not?

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  • barstool

    I accidentally clicked "no" cos your sister is not normal, but meant to click "yes" cos its normal to want space.

    Sisters can be experts at knowing exactly what buttons to push to manipulate you. If you, or somebody you know is affected by a manipulative sister, please seek help.

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    • Ellenna

      Not just sisters, manipulative people of all genders do this to anyone who lets them get away with it

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    • I do agree with you and that sisters know how to manipulative. Sometimes mothers as well.

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