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Ever decide to Whatsapp your favourite person then think "Actually I'd better not because if you don't reply it's going to hurt like s***?"
THIS IS AMAZING... I AM CURRENTLY EXPERIENCING THIS EXACT SAME THING!! I have been wanting, really wanting to email someone who i literally CHERISH but keep procrastinating because I am fearing the response if any might be rejection, so i keep holding off, and it hurts in my heart, literally, when i think about this.. i would'nt be able to handle this person rejecting me!! But.. theres a chance it might NOT be rejection i know, yet still i procrastinate... i completely relate to this!! You must keep me updated please!
Update: saw her today. Turns out it was completely delusional me thinking she was doing it because she was pulling away from me... or was it? How can I tell if she's being sincere in her affirmations, or not? I'm tired of swinging between suspicion and relief.
depends on what the convo is, if you ask them a question and they dont respond and blue tick you then it means one of 2 things, 1 they dont respect or care about and are probably using you for their personal gain, 2 theres a legit reason such as they were too tired or they are having personal issues so they dont wanna answer any questions - altho they will never say this and explain causing you to be paranoid as to the blank. i would just tell them how you feel and how it makes you anxious etc and it is more common than not unfortunately and happens to people who give out love but receive none
Why wouldnt they respond? If yall were really friends you shouldn't worry bout it
It's nice not to feel alone in this, Rose 💛💛. I hate not being able to love naturally or express how I really feel, always having to watch myself, always holding myself back, because the more I let myself love them the more it'll hurt, and I won't be able to keep the hurt to myself, and they'll get weirded out or hurt by me, and they'll ditch me...
It just happens time and time again, like clockwork. Sometimes I see people try to get close to me and I feel sorry for their future disappointment and for how much of their life I'll waste, and I feel like warning them 'Save your emotions for someone else. I'm a vampire. Save yourself.'
At any given period of my life, I will be feeding voraciously on the positive affirmation and affection of a 'favourite person'. I will love this person with my whole heart, physically or emotionally, knowing all the while that it isn't healthy and that my heart will be badly broken later. The slightest negativity... I can't chase from my mind the panic that it's because she has decided she doesn't want to be my friend anymore and wants to ditch me. It's like I know the rejection will come but I pursue the affection anyway... sometimes I reject before I can be rejected. In the past, when I have brought this up with individuals concerned, they have acted all confused like they didn't have a clue what I was talking about, but our friendship still fell apart, so I can't have been completely wrong - maybe the signs of their rejection that I was noticing were just subconscious so they didn't notice themselves doing it. I'm vampiric because my intensity, need for affection and emotional instability drain people, maybe.
Thanks for asking and caring 😊. Yes, once or twice. One of the therapists taught me CBT, and I still use it, but that alone isn't quite enough. The therapy sessions did end up with her saying "I'm sorry - I really can't identify what it is that you're suffering from and I can't help you further." I've done my homework since then and if what I am struggling with isn't a mild form of Bpd, I'll be amazed.