Is it normal to not like telling your boyfriend when you're uncomfortable?

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I just feel like such a downer doing it. We're very similar but also wildly different in some aspects, mostly humour wise. I just don't like when he makes really crass sexual jokes about me publicly, or brings up money too much (mainly talking to other people about how much I have, it's kind of really taboo in French culture), or other small things like that.
I've told him for some before and sometimes he goes into a fit and gets upset with himself for making me uncomfortable and has to take a few hours to stew alone before being fine again and it just makes me feel terrible for limiting him like that.
I know it's about communication and I know we should be comfortable enough together for me to tell him this kind of things, but I can be a very subtle and quiet person and I'm very shy about telling people when they make me uncomfortable. Most often if that happens I express my discomfort with body language which he is absolute garbage at reading and I don't like bringing it up verbally because he always takes it so hard on himself.
I just end up trying to find excuses to get him to stop while avoiding the idea that I'm uncomfortable. I don't know what to do.

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago

    Once you've told him that you don't like him bragging about your money then that's it. You shouldn't have to have that conversation again because he should listen to you. Don't feel sorry for him.

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  • Whatintarnation
    4 years ago

    He makes sexual jokes about you publicly and talks about how loaded you are and you use the word crass? I believe you're correct when you say you two are wildly different. Opposites attract huh? Good luck.

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  • palehorse
    4 years ago

    Not normal. Neither of you are going to be happy in this relationship if you can't communicate well - there seems to be problems on both ends.

    You two should talk more. You need to be honest about your feelings, and he needs to learn to not take everything so personally.

    Good luck :)

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  • brutus
    4 years ago

    Be more assertive.

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    So you've asked him to not do these things and he still does them? He doesn't respect you or your feelings: what are you doing with him anyway?

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Just sit him down, and give him a talking to, girl.

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  • LookSomeonesWelding
    4 years ago

    I make rude jokes. They genuinely slip out, even if I'm with the wrong people for it.
    You're the only one here who can tell us if you feel his slip-ups are accidental, or if he's not showing respect to your feelings. Go with your instincts.

    Also, don't rely on body language or anything subtle to communicate. Use your words, whether it's going to upset him or not. It's the only way forward.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    I choked on a salt and vinegar chip while reading your post op.

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  • WeirdManFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    That's fucked up. He should feel like shit when he does that. It's rude to brag about wealth and make sex jokes in public. Dont feel sorry for him.

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    • Cuntsiclestick
      4 years ago

      Actually, this comment is rational.
      :)
      My thumb limits been reached, so I can't thumb it up.

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      • WeirdManFromTheSouth
        4 years ago

        Its because i said "he should feel like shit". Snowflakes want you to acknowledge other peoples victimhood 🤣🤣😎
        8====D ~

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