Is it normal to never be approached by men?
I'm in my 30s, female, romantically attracted to men. I've only had 2 short-term boyfriends, both of which I met online and then in person. I've only had 1 guy approach me and ask me on a date, but I turned it down because I didn't know him (he was a random guy in a college class, and we had never spoken a word to each other before that - so it caught me off guard when he asked me out).
Other than that, nothing. In high school, I was told that I look unapproachable, have RBF, and just look like I don't want to talk to anyone. In middle school when I played sports, my mom would always criticize me and say "You look like you don't care to be out there!"
I do care about most things, but I can't help it that I have a weird look about my face.
I also feel I look too young for my age - I often get mistaken for a high schooler by strangers I interact with. So that might be another reason why men my age never approach me.
My family says "You're so beautiful! You're more beautiful than most women" And that is obviously false and I hate this kind of toxic positivity. I am not at all 'pretty' - I have the body of a chubby teenager, a crooked front tooth, and a big forehead.
I also hate myself and have zero self confidence so that might be the main thing. I give off a 'bad vibe'
Idk is it me? Is it a society who has their heads in the phones and don't bother to look up?