Is it normal to have old fashioned views about male and female roles

At the start you seem to be talking about some form of role reversal here, and that's ok every couple needs to do what's right for them. But if your theory works you are saying exactly the same as me with the only difference being the man doing all the cooking, housework, etc and the woman being head of the house. But then you go on to say it should be shared equally. So I'm a bit confused. Also, I only work part time and when the children were small I didn't go to work at all, so why should he do as much in the house as me?

Oh come on, this has to be a troll and likely a male one at that. Equal does not mean "the same". As for the rest, get over yourself. It isn't that special to want to be lazy ass who only works part time and has someone else take care of them, under the guise of being "old-fashioned".

Whatever floats your boat but no need to get all self-righteous about it. Not everyone is as simple-minded as you.

Sounds like you’re actually a guy and this sort of thing is what you get off on. I do not see how posting about this on a site with thousands of posts about feces would magnify this feeling, unless you get off on that, too.

Actually, if that’s the case, it’s for a good reason. Both of those are really shitty things.

1.
being the same in quantity, size, degree, or value.
"add equal amounts of water and flour"

You are misunderstanding this term. This is a term with more than one meaning, as many words do. This one means equal, as in equal amount of stuff to be fair to someone. It plainly explains it here.

noun
1.
a person or thing considered to be the same as another in status or quality.
"we all treat each other as equals"
synonyms: equivalent, peer, fellow, coequal, like; More

The word here is what you are looking for. This means that the person is just as important, or that they matter just as much. It means they have the same worth or value.

It has nothing to do with same.

When people talk about equality they're almost always talking about equal rights and opportunities, so that argument of yours is just irrelevant. Marriage is a democracy, someone doesn't have to back down, you're supposed to compromise. Even if someone does have to back down occasionally, it shouldn't always be the same person. And you can't really use the claim that because "arguments are few and far between" that it's therefore a great marriage, when the reason that arguments are few and far between is because you don't even consider your arguments as worthy. Just because you're submitting your point of view into an argument doesn't mean it has to be a hostile argument. By refusing to argue your own points as equal to his just because you're afraid of starting a big argument, you're just letting yourself down.

Not everyone appreciates your views, but I don't see why you should be getting thumbed down so much.

You're really not an idiot, and you had the sense to mention that you'd essentially need a good man who wouldn't abuse his authority.