Is it normal to go from love to hate to love this quick

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I love my friends, I would be platonically in love with them ready to end it all for them kinda thing, but then one day I suddenly start getting irritated/annoyed/disgusted (?) by them. Not for any specific reason. I just can't stand them or i don't want to even meet up because i feel uncomfortable around them even tho they've made nothing wrong.

I never tell them of course, that would make them feel bad and it's not their problem, is mine.

Then a couple of days/weeks later I would be normal again.

Is that shit normal? Do you ever randomly get like this with the people you love?

It happens with one person at a time tho. And it's not always the same person.

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  • insanebotv21
    1 year ago

    Try and see a doc you might have BPD

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    I suffer from depression and i'm an introvert so I can relate.
    People get on my nerves abnormally easily. Friends I am a bit more tolerant with but only because they are introverts too, romantic interests I have the lowest tolerance for due to how often you're forced to spend time with a potential partner. I always have to work on my attitude but like you I bottle those feelings up the best I can, preferably by withdrawing but that isn't always possible.
    I don't think it's normal to be this way if it happens often and for absolutely no reason, unless you're very introverted and all your friends are extroverts who rarely ever give you any space.

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  • Grunewald
    1 year ago

    It happens to me too. Perhaps we put people on a pedestal in our minds and then when the 'honeymoon period' is over we become disillusioned.

    Perhaps we overestimate how good people are, and then get disappointed.

    Perhaps we are prone to black-and-white thinking, where a person is all good one week and all bad the next but it's hard to reconcile the two poles in our mind at any given time. I get that. As a mental exercise, when I notice I'm seeing them as all bad I sometimes try to make the two sides coexist. It's like trying to see a colour that I don't have cone or rod cells to see. I know it's just my mind though.

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  • litelander8
    1 year ago

    It’s normal for me. But I’m not normal. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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  • SkullsNRoses
    1 year ago

    If there’s no apparent cause for this perhaps you’re just spending too much time with them and they’re starting to get on your nerves?

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  • ospry
    1 year ago

    People can need some space from their own spouses. It's totally normal to feel that way toward platonic friends with whom you haven't made an oath of undying love

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