Is it normal to get mad at a stranger in a shop for touching your payment card?

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What the title says.

I put my payment card in the card reader to pay at a convenience store and a random man who was standing near me reached out and pushed it down further, apparently because in his opinion I hadn't pushed it in far enough.

I glared at him and said "Excuse me!" and he acted mystified. I clarified: "I do not allow strangers to touch my payment cards".

I can only see that touching a stranger's bank cards is a violation of sorts. But I might be wrong. Was his mystification normal, or was my objection normal?

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  • SkullsNRoses
    1 year ago

    Normal to not want someone touching your payment card. At worst it looks like an attempted theft, at best it’s still weird and invasive.

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  • YE
    1 year ago

    Mystified at the fact that you didn't punch him in the face. I know you can do better than "I do not allow strangers to touch my payment cards".

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  • taebby22
    1 year ago

    I get mad if people are standing too close to me while I'm paying with my card, and even at an ATM. I always just nicely tell them to please step back. Never know who's trying to look over your shoulder and steal your sh*t

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    It's always rude to touch someones stuff without asking and when it comes to something like a payment card it could come off as him trying to steal it.

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  • normal-rebellious
    1 year ago

    Your objection was normal, but man, you have problems, people have no confidence in you. I'd act this way too, I don't let anyone touch my key card, that which I use at the ATM, even though such an issue hasn't happened, but if they shoved my key card in faster at McDonald's I'd be really cross and push the guy away saying "my card", I don't see why people look at you funny, they used to look at me in this way too, I used to sit next to a black woman on the bus, the bearded man was angry and called me a queer, I can't begin to explain how mad and frustrated I was at people assuming no confidence that I was normal, I thought this was a new life for me, acting as an average man, and I think I'm right, I wasn't weird, and I wasn't irrational but similar to your card incident I was punching in numbers and the guy behind the counter thought I was dumb trying to teach my grandma to suck eggs when I already knew what numbers to punch in, I did it rationally, but people thought I was into unicorns, and elves, UFOs, and karma, I wasn't, I was rational, meaning I was into calculations, and science, and good sense, and figuring things out, and logic and stuff like that, people have no idea.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      Thanks for your thoughts and solidarity.

      There is a certain kind of man who sees a woman doing something with a machine and automatically has no confidence in her ability to do it, even if she actually does it almost every day. That man was presumably one of that kind.

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      • normal-rebellious
        1 year ago

        With the exception that I'm not a woman, I'm the man who in my mid-twenties ordered a decaf soy latte, how you get rationality out of it is easy to explain, it's not irrational things like yelling out, not listening to reason, or lacking in logic. But I suppose a man doesn't know what dangers he's putting himself in with any claim of womanhood.

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  • raisinbran
    1 year ago

    Be grateful someone more competent than you cares enough to assist you with your inability to do the simplest of tasks.

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