Is it normal to fuck up any good situation due to your own insecurities

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I don't exactly want to go into deep details. But basically, when I feel I'm in a good situation, nothing wrong at all... I somehow find the most amazing way to fuck it up, and treat it as a shit situation.

Like, if I have a friend who does nothing but help me out and I ultimately turn on then and piss them off due to my own insecurities and thoughts, cause somehow I can't just settle down and be happy with what I got... Is it really normal?

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    Normal. But also destructive.

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    Interesting question for my own current circumstances

    If they recognize you have deficits and that you work on them and them being there helps you work on them, then why should they suddenly realize they don't respect your mentality enough to let you develop out of your insecurities?

    It almost makes me think they could have been dubious from the start

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  • SwickDinging
    3 years ago

    Yup, very normal, although it is not good or healthy. People who find ways to break these patterns of behaviour tend to do much better out of life.

    Maybe try and find one of those people and ask them how they did it. Then report back to us here, because I would love to know.

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago

    The term for that is self-sabotage. Lots of people inflict that on themselves, and it doesn't have to be anything as drastic as the example you cite. Procrastination, over-eating, and the heavy use of drugs (including alcohol) are also forms of self-sabotage.

    It's often the result of low self-esteem; if you feel, deep down, that you don't deserve anything good in your life, you'll arrange things to make sure that your life is indeed crap.

    People also do it when they're suffering from imposter syndrome. Setting yourself up to fail confirms that you are indeed a fraud, and there's a twisted sort of satisfaction from proving yourself right.

    And some people do it simply because they want more drama in their lives.

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    • [Old Memory]
      3 years ago

      I'm not op but I think it's possible I've gone through similar things with people

      It just takes a lot for me to give someone real trust and to really let my guard down

      And personally, if I feel like you're smart enough to recognize where I'm at and you're really supposed to be my friend or think I'm cool or whatever, then you should calm the fuck down and let me build that trust, otherwise you're going to prove why I should hold my reservations with people

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  • Str8racers
    3 years ago

    I notice that at work alot with people. I'm trying to raise my kids to not have this problem. I try to instill in them how good they have it.

    I have noticed immigrants who came from third world countries never have this problen

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