Is it normal to feel like you both are using each other for sex?

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Is it normal to question what exactly FWB actually means? Like my guy friend wanted sex from me but I kinda turn him down at first then he started making out with me until I finally gave in and that was the first time he actually said babe to me and was more open to me about everything. Then when it was over he told me we were just FWB who find each other physical attractive and so I ask him if he's okay with me seeing my other guy and he said yeah but wouldn't even look at me in the eyes when answering. Plus he said he started talking to another girl because he wanted to annoy me on purpose since I was talking to him about my guy. He also told me multiple times that girls have hurted him in the past, so I think that's why he pushes me away but not 100%. So I want to know why is he doing and saying this to me when we made it clear we are just FWB? Does he have feelings for me now? How can I tell he cares about me?

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Cookiecutter

7 years ago

You need to clearly define to him what your relationship is and if your actually just fwbs then dont ask him if its okay to see other people because he doesnt need to know your not exclusive. Stop treating him like your together its just sex.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Yeah I understand now that now so therefore, I'll just do my thing and let me do his thing. However, if in the future he has feelings for me I won't be able to return those feelings for him since I know how he treats me.
  
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  - Cookiecutter
    
    7 years ago
    
    No dont keep stringing him on if he does have feelings for you. That just causes hurt and jealous stalkers in the future. Say something now or forever regret it.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      I don't think he has feelings for me now though because he shows me things of him just using me for sex. Example he will leave right after sex, which I'm fine with now.
      
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      - Cookiecutter
        
        7 years ago
        
        If your okay with this blowing up in your face instead of dealing with it when you should have good luck.
        
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Hunhun2

7 years ago

Some boys are generally like that they think its ok to see someone else but the minute you start talking to someone else its a probably even if he doesn't have feelings for you he could just be thinking he is the only person that you should be having sex with

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  But why do they think like that if we are not official? He even told me he's okay with me seeing the other guy but wouldn't look me in the eyes when talking.
  
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  - RandyRascal
    
    7 years ago
    
    You are thinking about him like he is a person. You need to think about him as just a sex object.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      I can't do that. He is a human being and deserves respect.
      
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bend_over&over

7 years ago

Have you seen both dudes naked cocks and nut sacks in person ?
How old are you ?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Yes and why are you asking?
  
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TomisOps

7 years ago

He said that he was talking to another girl probably because he was jealous, is a normal feeling on humans (not saying that is good). Dont blame him for saying that, he probably likes you.

(im basing on what i been reading).

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Then why would he say it's okay if I continue seeing the other guy? And leaving right after sex? Saying that we both are using each other?
  
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Justmehereok

7 years ago

Business group friend is a FWB for me. She's a petite, thin (never above 105 lbs), sexy blonde with a cute smile and very up-front, sexual attitude. She's actually the one who started up with me, after a function we went to. Left arm in arm, bit of liplocks, and, that first time, anyway, suggested going back to her house and having naked fun together. Who was I to say no?

When either of us are feeling up for it..We'll text or message "Hey, you". That's the sign. She also knows I have a thing for long nails, and, while hers are ok, she'll do them a hot red for me, and make cat sounds while digging into my skin. We're both fine with the arrangement, and understand..This is about sex, we hang out as friends once in a while, but..There is no "relationship" going on. Just two very physically compatible people, getting together for mutual pleasure.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  I like that description of yours it's true that's what FWB are about.
  
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  - Justmehereok
    
    7 years ago
    
    It's the truth. She and I have a good thing going, and understand. She's a slender, petite thing (great to toss around in bed..can get my hands all the way around her waist), and safe with me. Knows I won't physically hurt her or go too far, emotionally. This is a good friendship that also includes the occasional sex. Same as I said she'll do her nails red for me, I'll compliment her on her hair, skin (does have softest, best skin I've ever seen), things that let her know taking care of herself is noticed.
    
    We fell asleep on her couch one night, watching a movie. Arms around each other, shirts pulled up, very comfy. And no sex. Woke up, and she said was going to bed. I knew she wasn't up for sex, and didn't push it. I just went home.
    
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Anonymous Post Author

7 years ago

It's really not that easy cutting him off my life like that I sometimes wish it was that easy since he makes my head hurt a lot by his words and actions.

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- Ellenna
  
  7 years ago
  
  It's not about whether or not it's easy to break with him, it's about how you're feeling about him and the relationship in general. Maybe as a possible first step you could at least create some distance, focus on other interests in your life for a while and see what happens.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    7 years ago
    
    I've been doing but I miss sex with him for some reason so therefore I contact him but not just for sex but to catch up on him and hang out.
    
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Diego35LovesHilda29

7 years ago

Dump him immediately, great sex is one thing but he seems to have complicated rules about relationships.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Why do you say that?
  
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  - JonathanOo
    
    6 years ago
    
    My best friend is hurt and depressed today because of that. She keeps going back to him though because she really likes him. She should just stay away cause he already said he wants sex only and she wants a relationship. She keeps getting hurt
    
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Ellenna

7 years ago

Give it time. If you're friends then presumably you do care about each other and often women do become more attached after sex than men do.

You don't know he was trying to annoy you or why, you're really only guessing.

I repeat, give it time, keep the friendship lines of communication open and honest and see how it goes.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  At the very beginning when we started having sex I did become emotional attached to him but not anymore. I do care about him but not the same way I did in the beginning. No he told me that he was seeing that girl on purpose to annoy me. Why would he do that and tell me? He's just confusing.
  
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