Is it normal to feel hurt if my new bf slept with someone before exclusivity?

I always thought dating and exclusivity went together.

That's not cool with me. I wouldn't sleep around if I was dating someone :/

It's normal because even though you weren't exclusive at the time you still wanted to feel like you were the only one for him. It's kind of like wanting someone to do something for you without having to ask because they genuinely want to. I'm assuming that you didn't sleep with anyone else at that time and this makes you feel like he doesn't love you as much as you love him.
Although I have never been in this situation I think I can empathize.
The advice I can give you is to realize that he did choose you over her. He decided to make you exclusive which means that whatever past relationships he had in the past are over. His love for you has grown and he chose you.

normal to feel hurt by this. You should talk to him that's not right he was talking to you and haveing sex with someone else what's that about??? how would he feel? he should try to put his self in your shoes with this whole situation. I mean i guess you should be happy he wants you to meet his family and that he has made a commitment to you but still i would keep my eyes out with him i mean if he selpt with this girl twice before whats gonna stop him doing again just the fact he has come out and said he has made a commitment to you. last time i checked going out on dates and spending yall your time with that person should be pretty clear.im sure yall aren't in high school anymore where he writes you a note saying check yes or no to be his gf.

Can i know the result of this as i have the same problem ???

If he was sleeping with 2 or more different girls at one time this guy will most likely cheat on you in the future. First off when he was sleeping with you he should have been upfront and told you he was sleeping with other girls so you had a choice to get an STD from him sleeping with others or not. Can you imagine he stuck his dick in other girls just hours before sticking it in you? Do you think someone who respects you would ever do that to you? How about he stuck his dick in their vagina and then you sucked their vaginal juices off his dick? Do you think he cares? NO! Don't be stupid if you think this guy will ever truly care about you. The only person this guy cares about is himself and his prick. He could care less if he gets an STD it seems do you think he cares if he gave you one? AND most likely this will haunt you your entire relationship. This will always be there in the back of your mind. Yes its ok to date more than one person at a time. But IMO its not ok to fuck them all at the same time without telling the others before he plans on sticking it in them! You think you are hurt now imagine if you found out he slept with them in a different way? Like if he gave you an STD and he had to explain where he got it from. Or if he got one of them pregnant. Hell! I've heard of a guy getting many women pregnant at the same time. Do you really want to be one of those women? Don't you have more self worth than this? Lets put it this way. If you think you aren't worth a shit go ahead and stay with him. But if you have any self respect dump him and date a guy who doesn't think its OK to fuck any random girl and you while your dating.

If you think your absolutely happy now, then go for it! If you still uncomfortable, talk to him anout it, solve it. Real relationships can get through anything

Pretend to yourself that you have just started dating as from now!

I know that this is more acceptable in the States than the UK but if he does anything from this moment on then it's time to kick him to the curb. You don't need to put up with any crap.

I don't know why he had to tell you this at all. If you asked him, always remember NOT to ask a question that you won't like the answer to!

I'm married over 20 years and have never asked my husband about any ex he ever had or if he ever slept with anyone. I know that I would be just like you, and be hurt. Remember that the past is over, do not keep dragging it up and hopefully you two can move on to have a future.

Good luck and let this be a lesson. You don't need to tell him things about your past either that might hurt him.

You were seeing each other but not an item, I don't see that he did anything wrong. And he slept with two girls, once, a while back. He's sleeping with you all the time, and clearly chose you over them.

As for what does he see in other girls? Lots of things. You can't expect him to only find you pretty, biologically we are attracted to who we are attracted to. It doesn't mean better, just means different, and if he wasn't sure what he wanted of course he tested other waters, to make sure that you were truly the direction he wanted to go.

At least that's how I would see the logic, assuming no ulterior motives. Then again I certainly can't attempt to judge your S.O.'s character based simply on a short story on a forum.

One ore thing. If you truly do believe you love this person a lot , don' t do anything stupid based on being hurt from him sleeping with two other females. I do think that was wrong that he did this even when you two were dating. Anyway, I fell for a guy that I could have still been with today and there is not a moment that passes by that I don't feel bad or guilty for losing him. We went through the same situation that you are.

I totally understand how you feel and I believe that if you truly love him, you will get over this. I've been through the same shit and yeah, it does hurt a lot and will bug you but you will learn to love him and get over this. Hope this helps.

Well how frequently were you going on dates? That's what you mean, right? I just want to make sure because I don't agree that dating should be exclusive. Ideally I think people should be going on dates with several different people, to keep their options open, and learn about what they really want from a mate.

Haven't you ever dated/liked 2/3 guys at a time? If you haven't its cool. It really goes right back to how frequently have you guys dated per month? 11 months is a long time to see each other without sex and all that other couples' bs. lol.

It seems to me like he chose you for a reason. if he wanted to be with her, and not you, he would. and 2 times? co'mon, that's just a tap on the cheek whether I'm from.

Fight your inadequacy feelings!