Is it normal to feel guilty for not having feelings for someone?
So, a month ago I went through a traumatic breakup (I'm 29f and my ex is 43m). I didn't have a choice to stay away because my boyfriend shoved me into a wall. This was after months of too many arguments and him calling me names, invalidating my feelings and mental health issues, bleeding me dry for money to buy alcohol and he broke my phone. I felt like a lot of it was my fault after he pointed out what I did wrong (raising my voice, keeping conversations going longer than necessary) and I felt like a sh*t person. What's really sad is part of me didn't want to leave him but knew I had to stay away for my own safety and sanity. I messaged my friend who is also his ex (she had similar problems with him) to talk me out of going back.
My mom found out what happened because of some weird technical glitch where I got signed into Facebook on her phone. She told my dad, and he went down to my ex's workplace and told him to stop contacting me. The next day my parents gave my number to a guy we know (my mom works with him and my dad is friends with his dad). They've actually been wanting me to hook up with him before I was officially away from my ex. I started talking to the guy a little bit and gave him a chance at getting to know each other. We hung out once. I'm not quite feeling the spark though. Part of it is he blows up my phone with "what are you doing" texts, and I think part of it is the pressure from my parents to reach out to him and simply the fact that I met him at a horrible time In my life. Not throwing any shade at my parents, I love them with all my heart. I just can't be forced into anything when I'm still healing from what could be considered abuse, and getting over missing someone (no matter how bad things got I had good times with my ex). I feel bad for not feeling that "spark" tho, cause he's a good guy and I like him as a friend. And I've just recently found myself being interested in someone else but I'm still getting to know her (I'm bi) and even though she's really nice I know to take things slow after this sh*tshow I just went through. Is it normal to feel this way? Can anyone else relate? Sorry for lengthy post