Is it normal to be sick of everyones politeness?

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I'm a shy person and come off a certain way (innocent and cute as ive been told) so everyone treats me like i'm extremely super delicate. My friends are always so damn polite never swear around me,theyve never shown any side of themselves besides polite and careful. IM NOT A FUCKING CHILD!!! Sometimes I get this extreme urge to start fights with everyone and get reactions but I dont.I bottle it up to the point where I burst out crying from having so much pent up frustration.

I miss my former best friend so much. He's the only friend i've ever had who didnt treat me differently.He wasnt afraid to always say whatever he felt,to be sarcastic and to show me whatever mood he was in. He was a REAL friend. We ACTUALLY fought sometimes but he'd ALWAYS make sure I knew how important I was to him and we could be bitter together when we were except when we were together we'd always end up teasing each other about our bitter or gloomy moods until we didn't feel that way anymore.At times like these I realize how much I miss him.I dont see how its anything but human to have other emotions besides niceness and I like dark humor as long as its grounded in mutual respect.Im a firm believer too that a good fight once in a while is a release that brings 2 people closer.Ive never had a single fight or argument with any of my current friends,EVER....Maybe im insane or something but I really need something else sometimes or else I get bored and frustrated.Is there any way I can get out of the box my friends put me in or I need other friends too?!??

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  • bigbudchonga
    3 years ago

    I'd tell your friend this. But expect to face harsh relaity if you do. I don't mean to be a dick, but maybe there's a reason they're protecting you? Perhaps go half way in and tell them they can swear or whatever and that you don't mind it, but maybe don't tell them to go full on like you seem to want here.

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  • PukeyMcDookie
    3 years ago

    Yeah, I had this problem too. But in the end I kinda just accepted that’s how I am. Occasionally I will let off that doucheyness through online interactions but I don’t really crave negative attention irl. You could try some alternative fashion like become a goth, or take up some “tough” activity like mma training to give yourself that bit of edge

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  • LloydAsher
    3 years ago

    Then stop acting like someone who appears to be frail and weak.

    Perception is reality.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      I cant change my personality or how I look asshole. Go ahead and cure my anxiety then maybe you can do better than my last therapist since you're such an expert, dumb cunt

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      • LloydAsher
        3 years ago

        You cant change reality but you can change perceptions.

        Crying about how people see you wont change shit.

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      • [Old Memory]
        3 years ago

        There's a difference between what is and what could

        For you right now what is is what you've written up there

        What could is how you want to be treated. It's your responsibility to figure out how to get there

        It's easy to succumb to helplessness. It's a lot of fucking work to really get what you want. Nature typically follows the path of least resistance...

        Someone else once told me when you want something bad enough, you find a way to get it

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      • olderdude-xx
        3 years ago

        Actually, you can indeed change your personality. Everyone changes... Everyone.

        You can also change how you look. Making yourself more presentable can be done whatever your actual physical characteristics. That's all about what the good use of makeup and clothing is all about.

        You can become the person you want to be.

        I highly suggest that you read:

        "Personality Isn't Permanent" by: Benjamin Hardy

        This book is subtitled "Break Free From Self Limiting Beliefs and Rewrite Your Story"

        It was published in 2020 and is absolutely dynamite. It shows that in fact everyone changes their personality, and that you can control in what direction that change occurs.

        Become the person you wish to become... You can indeed do it (it will take some time).

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      • Tommythecaty
        3 years ago

        Cure your own anxiety and take responsibility for yourself instead of expecting others to do shit for you.

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      • RoyyRogers
        1 year ago

        Some people seem sweet and innocent naturally. This perception is often incorrect and based on stuff people can not change. Like being short for example or looking young. I tend to have this effect on others as well but I also am very noble. I would say occasionally this can be used to your advantage. It's interesting being the wolf in sheep's clothing sometimes. I would mimick thier behavior as they will come to realize it. For example make an off colored joke.

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    Benzos.

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