Is it normal to be scared of my own mother?

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Ever since the other day, my mother always shouts at me she puts fear into me and she always dismisses my problems passing them on as bullshit even when I'm depressed.

I sit on the floor feeling scared of her, she tries to change the subject by trying to hug me usually when I am very scared I don't allow myself to be hugged and when I'm very scared I also don't allow people to touch me.

Everything about her just keeps scaring me even more. Even when she keeps trying to comfort me by trying to hug me I keep rejecting it with my hands because everytime she does it she keeps making me even more scared.

Why I'm scared because of her is because I have memories of her yelling with fear and I have old memories of her doing it.

To this day I still feel a lot scared.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    Sounds like misunderstanding between the two of you.
    Have you communicated to her that physical touch is something you are sensitive about? If she shouts maybe it's frustration due to not knowing how to handle conflicts that arise. Not saying that makes it okay. If you feel comfortable you can tell her how you feel and how the problems you experience affect you. If you have depression diagnosed or anything else you could always try to educate her about it and maybe both of you need to talk to a professional to figure out how to deal with those things.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    I always say parenting is a fine line of love and fear.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    You’re scared because she shouts at you? If that’s all she’s doing then just shout back. Presumably, you’re an adult and if she’s being unreasonable you don’t have to put up with her.

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  • chuy
    3 years ago

    are you my friend from elementary...his mom would always tell him "I brought you into this world, I can sure as hell take you out when I desire." it was hilarious.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Oh, dear God! I really hate it when people say that bullshit to their kids!

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      • chuy
        3 years ago

        why?, it was hilarious...!

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  • IcyThot
    3 years ago

    I think she was just stressed about all your "problems" and then started taking it out on you. And as she passed them as "bullshit" she was probably trying to minimize those problems. And then she probably regretted being a B and started hugging you and stuff cuz deep down she knew she was being abusive and toxic. It also depends on your problems too. Like if it's school I don't blame her for shouting at you but I don't know what your problems are. And if you are so scared that she's shouting at you then maybe you should actually fix those problems. I think that's the point of disciplining and shouting. But on the other hand, she shouldn't really be shouting at all because that's not really disciplining. But yah I agree with Ellnell. But I hope you aren't just victimizing yourself and that you are actually listening to what she's saying because she could be right. Maybe she's just really stressed and tired of you just being passive aggressive. Afterall, there's a reason to everything.

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  • Brolly
    3 years ago

    Sounds like you both have big issues. She's trying to comfort you and you reject her while blaming her for making you scared. Maybe you being depressed scares her and the only way she can deal is to shout and then try to hug you becuase she's also scared. Seek help from a professional instead of playing the blame game. Learn to help each other. Good luck.

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