Is it normal these thoughts keep me from making progress?

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I’ve talked extensively about my fear of driving and how thoughts of my one friend intensified it, but I think this is what my current problem is in relation to it:

I tell myself that I won’t start driving until I understand a lot of complexities around it, like why my friend did it or why it took so long for me to be bothered by it. But I feel like my mind does it as some sort of defense mechanism, like it’s making excuses for me not to do it.

My past still haunts me and it’s not as easy to make it stop as it seems.

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Top of the day - life is worth living if you do it right.

    You need to lean to focus on the positives in your life... and also on becoming successful.

    Don't worry about what you cannot do, or what you are afraid of at the moment. Learn to work on what you can do well and expand from there.

    Some recent books I have read (short/quick reads) that may assist you in becoming the Lady you were meant to be:

    These are all by: Chris Widener

    The Image

    Twelve Pillars

    Above All Else.

    Please read in that order.

    Note that Chris Widener is a Christian Minister who has become a major success educator - so these books are written from a Judaeo-Christain perspective for religious/value perspectives. However, the truths in these books are universal and you can find similar statements in most other religions of the world for the biblical quotes he uses.

    Now, please go fourth and enjoy life and become successful as you were meant to become...

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Your friend started driving because she is an independent adult with a life. From what I remember from your other posts, it was extremely creepy that you were so controlling towards this friend and wanted to stop her from learning to drive. It is not her fault that you have this fear and you need to work on it by yourself without blaming other people.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      I thought I made it clear in this post that it’s my own self giving me these thoughts and that I’M the one who needs fixing, not blaming others, at least not anymore, but I guess I was wrong. I tried to point out that I’ve realized its my own mind playing tricks on me and that it’s not their fault.

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  • strawberryfieldsforever
    3 years ago

    I was also terrified to drive, I'm only 22 and have gotten past it a bit, actually got to the point where I WANT to take my G2 and get a car now. You just have to think about the pros of it, not the cons and not the fear of whatever has happened to your friend (I'm taking it an accident happened). You will always have that fear but you can crush it by doing exposure therapy and going further and further every day and thinking about when you have kids or if you already have kids how great itll be to take them places and to be proud of what you accomplished. For me I just woke up one day and thought "trillions of people drive every single day so you can do it to you bitch" and that solidified it for me.

    Anyways, I hope this helped sorry for the novel.

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    • Hubbard
      3 years ago

      What if I don’t want to have kids?

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    3 years ago

    sounds to me like youre wallowin in self pity & doubt and not doin a thing about it

    you got a buncha great advice here last time and did absolutely nothin with it

    how much of a burden are you on those around you because you always need a ride?

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    • Hubbard
      3 years ago

      Not much because I rarely ever go outside even before the pandemic

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      • have_a_good_day
        3 years ago

        Hoe, by da looks of yo username da reason for that is coz you live in a cupboard

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