Is it normal that wedding countdowns annoy me?
I keep seeing it on Facebook and it irritates the life out of me. If people live together, sleep together, have kids and do everything else together before they get married (and will perhaps divorce afterwards), what's the point in a wedding countdown? What are they counting down to? Some kind of glorified holiday? I mean, at least with the countdown to New Year something has definitely changed and there's no going back.
I guess what irritates me is people enjoying all the trimmings of holding marriage as an exceptional day of cosmic significance, when it doesn't change anything for them and they are not going to treat it like it's permanent. I mean, after you've made sure you've got your money's worth out of every last dollar of the 33k or so you've just blown on the event, the vows will have to be pretty life-changing if they're not going to be upstaged by the party. Gotta stave off that buyer's remorse! As if it were a sort of Valentine's Day on steroids where the afterglow lasts 7 years to a few decades longer...
Is it normal to be annoyed when people just use marriage as another form of consumeristic self-indulgence, but pretend like it's something different and eternal and life-changing? Is it normal to wonder cynically about why a couple are spending so much, and whether the extravagance is just to guilt each other into staying?