Is it normal that my friend thinks that blocking/ghosting should be illegal?

He's an annoying person who will get too clingy, do very hurtful things, or just say hella obnoxious things to people. When they block him, ghost him, stop taking to him and end the friendship, he'll go on this sob story about how his mental issues make him do all of it and how his mental issues makes him socially clueless and not understand that he's being cruel to others. He's going on this rant about how blocking and ghosting should be illegal and how friends need to be forever or they'll be legal consequences. Honestly I'm thinking about ending my friendship with this whiny, entitled brat.

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  • I'd block him. People like that are the type to snap and kill someone.

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  • It's funny cause people who cry about ghosting are usually the most clingy, toxic psychos who lack the introspective skills to realize it. Ghosting is a message in itself that the friendship is not mutual. Entitled bitches need to get over themselves

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    • Yep. I really don't understand how these toxic people fail to realize that they're toxic. There's really no excuse for treating others badly and they have zero right to be upset when the people they treat badly ultimately end the friendship. XD

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      • A lot of people lack insight. Hopefully they will someday come to their senses.

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        • I doubt it. He's in his thirties and refuses to ever take responsibility for his actions. People have told him over and over not to do certain things, yet he does them anyway. XD

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          • Yep, that's sad, but you gotta do what you gotta do to take care of yourself. I trust your judgment.

            I will admit though that this has kinda peaked my interest. What kinda stuff does it do?

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    • You don’t know what it’s like to have Asperger’s because I’m socially awkward and get ghosted all the time due to my condition. Calling someone a psycho for raising awareness about being ghosted is like the jock calling a nerd a loser.

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      • Bruh, I have defining characteristics of Asperger's myself (just never been checked for it because idk how to and I try very hard to pass as normal. Most i've been diagnosed with is OCD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Dysthymia, all which you probably know are common comorbidities of ASD as well)

        I've been ghosted, bullied, rejected, many times in my younger days. I took it as a learning experience. And nowadays I'm a loner. I have my own share of problems, which makes ghosting an Ideal way for me to deal with suffocators. Don't take it as an insult to yourself; otherwise, that insecurity is on you.

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      • I feel for you. 💛

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      • Lemme tell you about my friend:

        - Hes clingy. Anyone that makes the mistake of giving him their number will wind up having their phone blown up all the time.

        -He never asks before borrowing shit. He doesn't seem to think it's stealing.

        -He comes over without asking if it's a good time. If no one is home, he'll wait outside their houses in his car honking his damn horn nonstop and pissing off the neighbors. It could be nighttime and he'd do it. He also fucked up my friend's lawn by parking his car on the lawn and not the damn driveway and he refused to pay to fix it.

        -If he doesn't like someone's hair or look, he'll just focus and obsess over it and make fun of it for the entire day if they refuse to change their look.

        -He's rubbed family deaths in people's faces. Like, they're mourning, they don't need that shit.

        - He also gets jealous when anyone gets in a relationship and has even tried to come between them.

        -He complains a LOT. Like, every day we gotta hear him bitch about how straight women take away all the good guys and leave him single. If it's not that, he's complaining about Republicans, Hispanics, or the past. He's well aware I'm Hispanic, btw.

        -Also, if someone is going through a rough patch, if he's not rubbing that in their face, he's trying to one up their misery by whining about shit that happened to him long ago that doesn't even matter.

        I could go on and on with the list, but I'll end it here. This guy was told multiple times not to do these things, yet he refuses to change. His anxiety and depression really aren't a valid excuse for this. Lol

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        • Oh, dear God! That guy sounds like a real nightmare! I don't know if he has Asperger's, or some sort of personality disorder, or what, but it's completely not an excuse. What that dude needs is to be medicated, and spend a couple of months in a psychiatric ward! He is hella messed up, and he couldn't pay me enough to feel sorry for his crazy ass. I hope he leaves you alone! Honestly, he's lucky people haven't called the cops on him, or maybe they already have done so. He's also lucky if he hasn't had his ass whooped.

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          • Thank you.
            :)
            I've stopped talking to him. So far, he hasn't bothered me in the last two days. I'm going to make sure it stays that way. Lol
            :)

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        • That’s a metric fuck-ton of crazy right there. Serious question, why are you still friends with him?

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      • From your point of view.

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  • It is an incredibly cruel thing to ghost someone. If you told them beforehand, even through a text, that you were gonna block them and stop responding to them then that'd be ok, but to let the other person not know is cruel, even if they deserve it.

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    • I don't agree with your statement.

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      • Ok, fair enough. But even if someone deserves being treated like an asshole, that isn't going to solve anything. Ghosting them isn't going to teach them a lesson, because they won't even know why they're being ghosted in the first place. They're just gonna assume the person ghosting them is an asshole. Telling them why they're gonna be ignored would at least inform them of their wrongdoings. And they might just learn a lesson from that then, as opposed to just becoming more bitter.

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        • I see what you're saying, but if it's a creepy stalkerish person they are usually being blocked by someone who has most likely repeatedly blew them off, and gradually stopped talking to them, because of feelings of discomfort. Believe it, or not I've been ghosted before, and although it hurt my feelings I'm okay with it, because some people just happen to be poor communicators who aren't good with confrontation. I figure if I'm okay with the times someone has just quit communicating with me then I won't feel guilty if, and when I have to ghost another person. Honestly, I don't generally ghost people, and I do usually opt to have the uncomfortable conversation, but if someone makes me really uncomfortable then that's on them, and I just might have to ghost the person.

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          • Yeah I understand, but I didn't even mean meeting up with them one last time to tell them why you're ending the friendship though, or even talking over the phone. I just meant sending them a text/email before ending it, and then blocking them, just so that they at least know it's over. Where as ghosting them doesn't even let them know it's a definitive ending, it's that lack of closure that's cruel I think.

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            • Most people don't generally just block others out of nowhere. Although a lot of the people who do get blocked, or ghosted tend to be the types who lack insight, and are unaware of the things they do, and say to that turn others off. A lot of awkward people alienate themselves from others, because they don't know any better. I try to be fair, and communicate, but sometimes I just have to disengage completely.

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    • Sometimes people aren't entitled to an explanation. As far as I'm concerned, ghosting is the consequence of being toxic, and clueless. If someone expects to be treated with respect, they should learn to give it to others. Now if the person was actually sweet to others, then they wouldn't deserve to be ghosted. XD

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      • I disagree tbh, I think everyone's entitled to at least an explanation. Even if they're sentenced to death, they're at least entitled to know why. I can understand why you'd think otherwise, but I think that's based on feelings of revenge or vengeance tbh, rather than proper justice. If someone is clueless, then they literally wouldn't know that they've even done anything wrong anyway. So what's the point? They wouldn't learn anything, you wouldn't be teaching them a lesson. They'd just think you're the asshole for ghosting them.

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      • YES!!!

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  • Tell him he's not king of the world. He's fucked.

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  • You clearly don't like him. Just end it. You could ghost him (and nobody would blame you because he sounds awful), or you could just tell him what you've said here. He will lash out at you for sure but maybe, over time, he will think about it and take on board what you have said. Maybe.

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    • I've already told him about how clingy, whiny, and shitty he is. Other people have told him how shitty he is. I'm probably going to end the friendship. Lol he'll probably see it like the way he saw the other ones and not even try to understand why he's losing another friend, but hey, a burden will be lifted from my shoulders, so that's a huge plus. XD

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      • Maybe he gets ghosted because he isn't clingy, whiny, or shitty enough.

        When he said he thinks it should be illegal to ghost, that reminded me of something.
        One time I went into work complaining about some trivial thing and the shop comedian said, "There ought to be a law!"

        How hilarious would it have been though if even Tom off Myspace de-friended him? You might be too young to get the reference but anyways...

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        • Ah MySpace. It used to be a great place to learn about the latest indie bands at the time. My page was littered with glitter, skulls, and all sorts of childish emo shit. I haven't been there in years. Does it still exist? I'd probably cringe if I looked at my old page now. I get creeped out just thinking about it. XD

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        • Tom off MySpace defriended me. I sent him weird dirty messages because I thought it was funny. He did not find it funny.

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  • ghosting people is usually a pretty shitty thing to do. but from your comments to other users in mind, he doesn't seem to be self-aware enough to realize that the reason people do this to him, is because of himself.

    drop a truth-bomb on him about how he needs to look at himself for once, maybe recommend therapy if he isn't already seeing someone, say "sorry, but i can't handle this for my own health," and walk away.

    also, really fucking weird that he's in his 30's and still doing this. as a 20-something with some debilitating mental disabilities and illnesses, using those isn't really an excuse either. i feel for the people who act like this for those reasons, but i'm not gonna be obligated to stick around them if it's just causing me hurt, as well.

    hope that makes sense?

    wishing you luck!

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  • In my opinion I hate friends like that, they cannot solve their own problems themselves.

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  • Blocking and ghosting is not nice in general, but can be a necessary evil when other alternatives won't work.

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  • Call me an old fogey - 'cause I am - but I still can't get my head around how so many people clearly believe that the norms of social discourse that pertain in the real world are completely irrelevant on the internet.

    Does this ignorant, self-obsessed jerk actually believe that if he were behaving like an asshat in the real world people would be required to stay with him, listen to his crap and call him a friend? Most people figure out before they're five years old that if you chose to behave like an asshole and say obnoxious shit, people are going to get annoyed, walk away and ignore you.

    I suggest you pick a local lawyer at random, message the shithead with the name and number, tell him you've had enough of his nonsense and you'll see him in court and block him.

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  • It's not his friends' fault he has a mental illness. Everyone has the right to cut off relationships that are toxic. He sounds like he needs some help from a professional so that he can learn to be a better friend. I had to work on my social skills a lot too.

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  • Being ghosted is just really bad social etiquette. Bad social etiquette shouldn't be illegal since I fart way more in public than i should.

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    • Just imagine someone getting arrested for farting, people hear a little toot from someone’s bum and they’re instantly tackled to the ground whilst old women scream to call the police.

      Back in school some idiot in my class got detention for a single fart, I remember the teacher filling out the slip with “Reason: Farting” with a furious expression. Strange times.

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  • I believe the same thing!!! I was ghosted and I'm still hurting. I asked a question on here titled" i think ghosting and shadow banning should be illegal". Anyone who hurts someone like this deserves to be punished!!!

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    • Actually you really have zero right to talk on this subject. You were such a creep to your friend that he had no choice but to ghost you. You've admitted to stalking your friend and his fiance multiple times. Even going as far as to wanting to crash their wedding to confront him. You're basically a clueless carbon copy of my annoying friend. Lol

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    • Nope, you brought all of it on yourself.

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    • Nope, people who get ghosted a lot need to to gain some insight, do a searching, and fearless inventory of themselves, and start working on their character defects. You need to work with a therapist.

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