Is it normal that my boss slanders me before quitting?

My boss put in a notice to quit, and a few days before the last day I found out they were going around the office telling people what a horrible employee I am. Basically exaggerations with a hint of truth (i.e. "he called in again, etc..") but not giving context (like I have 3 small kids under 7 and I'm the primary care provider.

Is It Normal?
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  • Talking trash about people is never right - especially if you're a manager.

    You calling in didn't make his job easier, but it was still wrong of him to speak badly of you to your colleagues. There are appropriate ways of handling dissatisfaction in a workplace (like talking to you about it) and he should have used those instead.

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  • Your boss had an office to run and shouldn't have had to cater to you because you have kids. How fair was it to him to have you calling in all the time? If they are affecting your work attendance that often, get a nanny or enroll them in daycare.

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    • My kids are in school. The ones who are not are in Daycare. Kids get sick, parents have to stay home with those kids, it's a part of life. Obviously you don't have kids because you don't seem to understand. My wife and I try to split things evenly so one of us isn't taking more time off than the other. I work at a small non-profit that is flexible since they pay shit. My wife works at a big company with less flexibility and makes way more than I do. My boss was the only one with the problem, no one else has ever cared, he was new and didn't get how it worked.

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      • Well then, some solutions: if your wife makes decent money and you make shit, then quit and be a house-husband. If one of your kids gets sick you'll be there to watch over him/her, and won't have to worry about which of you takes time off.

        Or hire a nanny to watch over things (as I suggested before) and stay at your job. Then neither you or your wife will need time off.

        Stop being an entitled parent and blaming your boss for not catering to the lifestyle you chose for yourself.

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  • I'm sure I've said this before. But generally, if several people think you're a problem, you probably are.

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    • OP didn't say "several people", s/he was talking about ONE person, the boss. Maybe you're confused because of this comparatively new grammatical fashion of using a plural (they) for one person rather than he or she?

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  • Your kids don't matter. People are trying to run a business, not cater to your family life. I run a car dealership and have a small business on the side and I don't care about your family situation. Work must be done.
    I could come up with excuses too, but if I did, profits will go down.
    I get emergencies, but I couldn't tolerate someone being half an hour late every day just because they had to drop off their kids to school. Public transport in Germany is excellent.
    Get a nanny, or a friend to help out. Your job is what puts money on your table and if you don't do it well, better update that resume...

    Still kind of a lame thing to do and bad mouth you in front of other employees. If someone is rubbish at their job, I'll fire them and if anyone asks why I did the lay off, I say it wasn't working out, they weren't doing their job right and leave it at that. But I will not go employee to employee and go "Man, that guy was shit, wore crocs and liked pineapple on salami pizza"

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  • Normal. My boss was a bitch too.

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  • Why should the company care if you have kids? They are running a business. They seem pretty nice to me. I would just fire you and hire someone without children, someone that will be at work on time.

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  • If you keep calling out, then, yes, theres a problem. A company cant get things done if people keep calling out. They're not going to bend over backwards for you just because you have kids.

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    • Calling out? Calling IN when s/he couldn't get to work: would it be better to just not turn up?

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  • Yes. It's human nature for a weak, shallow boss to blame you. He's a goof. Find an different job with a better boss.

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  • My kids are in school. The ones who are not are in Daycare. Kids get sick, parents have to stay home with those kids, it's a part of life. Obviously you don't have kids because you don't seem to understand. My wife and I try to split things evenly so one of us isn't taking more time off than the other. I work at a small non-profit that is flexible since they pay shit. My wife works at a big company with less flexibility and makes way more than I do. My boss was the only one with the problem, no one else has ever cared, he was new and didn't get how it worked.

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