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I personally think that the new generation of parents fail to discipline their children. They're just plain weak. Too often, children end up being the ones in charge. It is kinda pathetic actually.
Depends. Are you genuinely talking about the idiots who let their kids run wild? If so, absolutely.
If you just mean people who just hit their kids then...they also are lacking in parenting skills.
What...you've never served little A with a knockout punch for making giraffe noises? That's how kids should be treated, with beatings. Look how well gunny pasta child turned out. He only smashes a hammer into the wall sometimes, on occasion.
I mean...a child that does that clearly should be given a gun...good parenting 101.
Meanwhile, I catch the 2.5yr old drawing on himself despite being told not to...I explain I'm taking the markers away cos we only draw on paper and Auntie Mel is cooking now...missed putting away one and he fuckin dobs himself in and gives me the other markers and finds something else to occupy his time.
2.5 year old gets simple instructions. Probably because...Idk...his parents and I set boundaries for him...explain shit to him...reinforce those boundaries...follow through with discipline...act like adults instead of incompetent drunk kratom addicts...
Luckily, pastachild is probably fictional.
SOUNDS SOFT, like the dusky light at the local super mart...
I fucking hope pasta child is a work of fiction. Hammer wall following gun safety is terrifying parenting shit, not to mention female pasta child cropping up after like a year of pasta child shit from big bad pasta daddy. No wonder he demonizes carbs.
Pls send hlp. My CHILD ate a bunch of magnets and chased it with 12 batteries. It wasn't me!! Mmmm those batteries look tasty though
Why didn't you slap the markers out of his hands!? It's like you believe in "social skills" or something.
Glorified babysitting, amirite. We should just be roundhouse kicking toddlers
I’m gonna regret asking, but why is weirdchildfromthesouth called pasta child?
Oh no hahahahaha.
Pasta child is an incredibly devolved joke.
So basically, southtard kept railing in chat about dumb ass shit his crotch fruit did. He would...like... pop in and post "just got back from the ER because my son shoved a battery up his nose"
Kept happening over and over.
Oh no, my son ate 12 magnets
So we were joking for ages that southtard was actually the one eating magnets and snorting batteries and that he just created a fake son so he could blame someone for his retardation but still get internet attention for his hospital visits after ingesting hot wheelz toy cars.
So then it devolved into him staying up at night and making a fake macaroni art child to blame things on.
No wife, I did not superglue my fingers to my butthole, it was pasta child.
But then, as the horrific bad parenting posts continued, pasta child became an imperative belief.
"Iin that I gave my 5 year old his own gun today?" Oh dear fucking God, it's fine. He doesn't have a real child. It's just a pasta child.
At this juncture, we choose to believe in pasta child for our own comfort. The other possibilities are too horrifying to confront.
My parents beat me with their empty liquor bottles and look how great I turned out!
*Goes to drink my pain away and beat my underage girlfriend for having a suspicious look on her face before logging onto Parlor to rant about this stolen election*
I don't really have to discipline my kids much because of how I raised them. I've always spoken to them similar to adults, almost never yelled, treated them with respect, let them make choices for themselves, let them explore, try things, follow their own interests. They, in turn, have a great deal of respect for me so they naturally behave well the vast majority of the time and will easily comply if asked to do something.
I think treating children with dignity and respect goes a loooooong way in regard to keeping children in line. Be respectable and give respect. Most people, in my experience anyway, don't seem to think children deserve respect and that's where problems start, I believe.
My parents were strict, mean, screamed and yelled, punished constantly, and had zero interest in treating me as a respectable individual. My privacy was invaded regularly, I was not listened to. Essentially, I was made to feel worthless. Thus, I didn't care about following my parents rules because I didn't respect them as people, I didn't care if I disappointed them, I only slightly cared about not getting screamed at but that wasn't enough to really make much of a difference in my behavior. I wasn't terrible or anything but I guess to them I was. Most of the stuff I got in trouble for was essentially not reading their minds (anticipating their needs and taking care of them), or not doing a good enough job with chores, or putting something in the wrong place.
Now I hardly talk to my parents. A couple emails a year to my mom, I never call anymore and they don't call me either. Now they're old and talking about possibly moving near me, I'm assuming because they think I'll take care of them. Nope. Go get one of your prized sons to do it.
Sorry for the rant.
Hi! I half expected this site to be gone, but its still kicking! I saw a few of the familiar names around still! How have you been?
My wife and me fight over it alot. My son will do something like hit the wall with a hammer. Ill tell him no. Then he will stare dead in my eyes and do it again. Then I will yank him by his arm and slap his ass and my wife will be like "STOPP!!!!".
Idk how she can accept him blatantly disobeying orders. Normal kids will atleast stop for a second and do it again when youre not looking but to stare right at you and do it just shows he thinks we are a joke.
Keep dem tools away from your child, he's gonna smash it in your sorry face in the near future.
Hes 2 and a half and can already hammer nails into a board. We have to hide the screw drivers because we will hear something and go in the other room to find out he took a door off the hinges! He's gonna be like my dad really mechanical. Trying to feed the flames to see what he can figure out. But youre right i do need to hide the hammers more.
You're doing the right thing, bro. At that point you've got to do something.
Thats one of the reasons why I dont like kids I get they dont know any better but damn.
I have anger issues which is why its best I dont have kids because I would be accused of abuse if my kid did what yours did.
My sister is very strict with her daughter thats because while our parents werent together they were very VERY strict on us.
Even with me being a dipshit my parents didnt put up with it. If I ever have kids (god forbid not really a fan of kids)I will just do what my parents did.
From what i've seen IRL. The most well behaved children are the ones with 2 parents & a father figure who immediately physically disciplines them when they misbehave & the worst behaved one's come from the opposite. Usually a single mother who does nothing but scream, yell & curse hollow threats at the kids for 8 minutes (like the 15th time they do it is going to work when the 14 other times didn't).
There're some exceptions like me & my first brother, but my second brother was an absolute cunt monkey & didn't stop being an ass hole until I took matters into my own hands & started immediately beating him the very second he started acting like a dick head.
Whether you like it or not. The cold honest truth is unless there are physical consequences (that they care about) for their actions, 9 times out 10 people will continue to act the same way.
I definitely think some are. The amount of parents I've met who seem to have never told their children "no" a day in their lives is shocking. I also grew up with a few kids like this, and they are now greatly struggling in adulthood because of it.
I've noticed some parents seem to be almost scared of their kids as well, and yet others just don't want to deal with an argument and just let the kids have/do what they want, and/or they never hold their kids accountable for their actions.
I actually know someone who is 25 and has never actually had a responsibility in his life. Never had a job, driver's license, any responsibilities around the house that he's actually held accountable for, etc. He still gets an allowance and will still get paid even if he doesn't do his "house chores". The parents couldn't stand having him mad at them and therefore cracked under any tantrum. What good does that do?
I've known several who can't handle being told "no" and really struggle when they get into the real world and no one bends over backwards for their feelings, nor cares about what they want. It's a real shock to them. They end up being extremely irresponsible, miserable, and unable to handle not getting everything their way. Trying to be your kid's best friend and spoiling them does them no favors in the long run.
One thing that isn't as big of a deal in the grand scheme of things but is extremely annoying is when parents will fix a different meal for every kid, throw out the food if they decide they don't feel like eating it and cook them something else, and essentially allow them to treat them as a restaurant cook. I swear, every obnoxiously picky eater who struggles to fill up the fingers on one hand with foods they'll willingly eat and throws childish tantrums over food not being perfectly how they like it was raised this way (as was the person I knew who was pre-diabetic in their late teens due to refusing to eat anything but fast food and junk food). I was always taught that what was on the table was what was for dinner, and I never starved or felt mistreated. On the other hand, I've watched someone cook ONE kid literally FIVE meals, the kid refused all of them and threw one plate on the floor and the parent kept cooking and didn't even reprimand him for throwing the plate! It was all foods the kid had previously eaten and liked, too. At that point, the kid is obviously not that hungry (not that it ever SHOULD get to that point, as that is ridiculous). I've actually heard people try to excuse this crap as an "eating disorder" or autism, but I don't buy it in the vast majority of cases. I could go down the rabbit hole of the trend of people coming up with all sorts of diagnoses for every behavioral problem that is likely a disciplinary issue as well (seriously, not every little thing is autism or ADHD or some other disorder; sometimes the kid just needs proper discipline and boundaries set), but I digress.
Anyway, yes, I've noticed that some parents tend to not want to actually parent, or be unable to. There are lazy parents who just want to shove a tablet in their kid's face like a pacifier just to get them to leave them alone, parents who are too afraid of their kids to set and enforce appropriate boundaries, and parents who think their little princes and princesses need to get everything they want at all times and expect them to go through life babied. If you ask me, not getting everything you want in life is good for people, as is being expected to behave appropriately. Even if a kid DOES have autism/ADHD/etc., you can still set boundaries and tell them when certain behaviors are not acceptable. It is not a free pass for them to just do whatever they want with no consequences. Yes, they may have more difficulty understanding certain things than other kids, but there's no reason they can't still have boundaries and be appropriately reprimanded when necessary.
By too soft are you talking about the opposite of no nonsense parenting?
"I want the pump!" Anyone remember that kid from the movie ACCEPTED? LOL.
I think it’s the age gap of parents. Now people are having kids in their mid 30s. And those parents are fucking pathetic.
Why so? I would have thought the extra financial security and 5-10 years life experience would be a benefit.
Yeah. If you're gonna have children, it's the best to get it somewhere in your mid 20s.
Ranking them for how good they look and how popular they are? Sounds like mental abuse to me.
No, that's actually pretty sick. You don't do that to your children. I can understand the grades though, and the chores, but on how they look? That's not something you can just control.
We can all agree that my_life_my_way would probably make a pretty bad parent.
A popularity contest for your own children. That's fucked up. Your kids should always be able to count on their parents. Otherwise what are you? Resources? What a way to bond with your kids, sucking the love out of the equation.
It’s teaching them strength, to get ahead in the world you have to always be competing with everyone around you. Love is earned, not owed
Love is apart of the parenting process it is not a carrot to be held at arms reach.
I'm for teaching of strength and belive it or not love is an important part about it. It is a level of understanding and trust that is what love inherently is. You are setting up a system to create hatred between siblings and ultimately you.
You are fabricating friction when there is no need. You are intentionally creating a system which will turn out a crap product that will hate you for creating it.
My kids are going to know I love them unconditionally. Why? Because I'm a human being, I naturally love my kids. But using love as a motivational tool is by far the most abhorrent way to use love for raising children.
I don’t owe them love if they’re weak, I’d be disgusted by them, why should I hide that? Healthy competition will expose them to reality and toughen them up
Babies are born weak. Do they not deserve milk? Your logic is faulty. Whole point in being a child is to learn the world. No if you only teach them to be competitive you are setting yourself up your own murder. Since logically you would be the final target for their anger.
Thinking you can teach kids like dogs, disgusting.
Why do you want to have children if you already despite them before they’re even born? Genuine question, what would you get out of parenthood?