Is it normal that i never have the courage to even befriend guys i like?

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Whenever I like a guy, usually, I can't even muster up the courage to talk to him. I am so intimidated and afraid he will think I'm weird or stupid. Because of it, I've never had a boyfriend. Which isn't a big deal because I'm only 19, but I still need to get over it. I'm the girl who ALWAYS crushes on guys who don't know my name. I'm not ugly or dumb, but I have ADD and can sometimes act really hyper. I'm self-conscious of these tendencies.

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  • LiamHale
    13 years ago

    You've gotta be comfortable in your own skin! As a guy, I look for girls who aren't afraid to say hey. Girls that aren't self-conscious. Usually what you think is bad, we think is cute.

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  • nicwisscherzilton
    13 years ago

    I read this and thought I wrote it for a minute, thats me to a T.
    obviously, I cant really give you any advice or tell you if its normal but I can tell you you're not alone. hopefully things will change...?

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  • chloroplast
    10 years ago

    I'm basically in the same situation as you, except I'm a guy. :3

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    alright, well in that case i think your too scared because you care too much what other people think, if it doesn't go well then fuck it, there will be an other guy around the corner.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i think that lifes too short to be too scared. your not going to know unless you try, sometimes you might get shot down but hey at least you won't be left wondering what if right? me and my sister go to bars sometimes and play this game for fun where we think of corny pick up lines stupid guys use to get girls and we use them on guys and see how many numbers we can get, if you make it fun like a game you won't be so scared. live a little :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Well picking up guys in clubs and bars is easy.

      But if I know and like a guy, I just fall apart. Picking up strangers is no problem because if i get rejected there's no harm done. If I like a guy and chances are I'll see him again, then the stakes are higher.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    I try to always talk to guys I like, but I've always been a little scared to ask a guy out. You should just make small chat at first, then eventually you'll feel more comfortable around him and talk more. good luck!

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  • jasonapple
    13 years ago

    Just go up to a guy and say hi. Then he might chat you up. It's easy to say hi.

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  • marley56
    13 years ago

    I think you will eventually reach the point where you either give up, or your desire for a relationship will be greater than your fear. Look at it like this: every person alive is afraid to talk to someone their attracted to. No matter how confident they are, there is always that little bit of fear that tells them they just might not be good enough. The only way to overcome fear is to do the very thing that makes you afraid. You can start out small by talking to random people, asking for directions etc. Then move up to talking to attractive guys, then guys you like. It's all little steps to the big problem.

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