Is it normal that i'm attractive ( and i know it ) but i still suffer from bdd?

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Rationally, I'm aware of the fact that most guys find me as attractive as the celebrities they see on TV. I actually look a lot like Kat Dennings, a lot of people have said '' hey you look like that girl from 2 Broke Girls '', but the weird thing is: when I look in the mirror, I see that my eyes are too far apart ( not sure whether it's just me or they actually are ) and that my face is too wide. I believe that I can be attractive at first sight, but ugly once you notice my flaws. I know this makes no sense but that's how I feel. This ( cute ) guy in school would stalk my FB profile all the time and check my pics all the time ( because he liked them all the time ) so he probably knew what I exactly looked like, but he was still into me and his opinion didn't change. I have suffered from BDD since I was 14, and I have no idea why it started as I had an amazing childhood and nobody in school ever made fun of me, it just never happened! BDD used to make me depressed but now I'm learning how to live with it and ignore it and I feel better, but it won't go away anyway!

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Never understand these questions where people with diagnosed mental illness ask whether they are normal or not. "Is it normal I'm anxious all the time? I have anxiety" "Is it normal I'm depressed all the time? I have depression" like no, it's not normal, hence why you're diagnosed with a mental illness. Literally meaning you deviate from the norm. Which means.
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    And why even ask people if you have to argue and shoot down every single thing every single person says? If you're so confident with your own answer than why even ask????

    I have OCD and BDD myself, in my case it reveals itself in my phobia of having my skin exposed. Is that normal? No. Is it normal I have a mental disorder? No. Is it normal I act this way because of my mental disorder? Probably.
    Sheesh

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    • nikkiclaire
      6 years ago

      Sorry didnt see this prior to posting. But Yes! Exactly!!

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Focus on making things besides your 'face'. You'll feel better about yourself when your self-esteem isn't so determined by the mirror.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Do you believe I sit home all day?

      And nowhere did I talk about my self-esteem. BDD is an actual mental disorder and it's not about self-esteem.

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      • StevelandCleamer
        6 years ago

        That guy does sit at home all day so he assumes everyone else does too.

        He also assumes everyone has low testosterone, because he is overweight himself as well as being a sacless, old, waste of a man. his voice probably sounds like Winnie the fuckin poo irl.

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        • bubsy
          6 years ago

          Kermit the Frog, actually.

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          • dirtybirdy
            6 years ago

            Hey now. It aint easy bein green. .even these days.

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      • bubsy
        6 years ago

        I believe you stand in front of the mirror a little too much. And the sooner you realize that you are your harshest critic, the better.

        Acting feminine and being charming will take you further than you can imagine.

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      • Murun
        6 years ago

        What would it be called before it was called BDD?

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        • Cynder
          6 years ago

          Doesn't matter. What were dogs called before they were called dogs? Dunno but they were dogs.

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  • KillAllPsychos
    6 years ago

    Since you have a diagnosis presumably you see some kind of mental health doctor where you can get advice, and since you seem to be rejecting any given here I guess you're purely asking if it's normal for a mental health issue to present itself exactly as described ? In which case..yes?

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    • nikkiclaire
      6 years ago

      Was going to say something similar. Since the question as always is IsItNormal then the answer is NO. Having a disorder is not normal. That's why it is a disorder in the first place.

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  • dirtybirdy
    6 years ago

    Meh. Looks aren't everything. I'm not the prettiest girl, but I know I'm attractive in a lot of ways. I do what I can with what I've got, and its gotten me plenty. Yay me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I know looks aren't everything, I just wish I could see my actual face the same way others see it.
      I don't care that I'm attractive, and I wouldn't mind being ugly if I was. That's not what BDD is about.

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      • Murun
        6 years ago

        You can't see your face how others see it.. Nor can any one of those other people see it how each other sees it.
        What our brains do with the eyeball's information is extremely subjective.
        That's how people with disorders such as bulimia can be dangerously thin yet look in a mirror and literally see themselves as fat.

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      • dirtybirdy
        6 years ago

        And also...no one ever sees themselves the way others see. No matter what angle. Just never .

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        • Murun
          6 years ago

          Spot on DB. I was just writing similar in too many words!

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          • dirtybirdy
            6 years ago

            Yesss, i too have tried to explain things in too many words.

            Glad to know someone knows what the hell im sayin.

            It's so true though. We will never see ourselves thorough someone else's eyes.

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      • dirtybirdy
        6 years ago

        I know BDD is a whole nother level, but just realize that you will never see yourself the way others do. Even if you had a bajilloindollars worth of surgery. Even if you did, it's just not that important. Hunny child, love yourself for who you are.

        I used to think that if I had the money, I'd change my nose, my boobs, my thighs
        ..but now I see that it JUST DOESN'T MATTER. please understand that.

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  • Murun
    6 years ago

    Nobody sees the actual shape of things (such as your face).. Our eyeballs themselves do, but our brains interpret the eyes information, and that's what we actually consciously see.... so what I'm saying is your eyes being too far apart is definitely just in your mind, the same as you looking like Kat Dennings is just in other people's minds. Hope that's useful info.. I'm sure your BDD will go away eventually. Not sure it even helps to give it a name.. 'BDD' sounds harder to get rid of than 'a bit self conscious'.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Wrong. Self-conscious is not a disorder, BDD is, it exists, and I was diagnosed with it.

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      • Murun
        6 years ago

        Are they not the same thing to different degrees?
        I'm not trying to trivialise your situation with that, just looking at it logically, at ways to overcome it. I think your diagnosis may not have helped you. Read the rest of what I wrote above, about how the brain interprets visual information.

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        • nikkiclaire
          6 years ago

          I completely agree. Rushing to put labels on everything does more harm than good.

          It is completely normal to be overly critical of yourself. Everyone is hun.

          It sounds like you may be starting to realize that so keep moving in that direction. You don't have to live up to labels.

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