Is it normal that i have no sympathy for bullied children?

I have no sympathy for bullied children as bullying always happens for a reason and the ‘victim’ should learn to fix them self.

As a child, I was timid and easily upset so I was made fun of for most of the time I was at school. That was what me realise I couldn’t survive in the adult world if I kept being so sensitive and emotional so I improved myself and became tougher.

Had I not been bullied, I would have grown into an immature, push over as an adult. All the recent attempts to eradicate bullying mean that the next generation will grow into adults who feel that they don’t have to improve themselves. If weird kids aren’t made fun of, they grow into weird adults.

Being bullied to some degree is just a part of childhood, it teaches you strength of character and how to stand up for yourself. It’s human nature that people will try to hurt or humiliate others so children should be prepared for that in the real world.

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  • Being bullied may not have have turned you into a pushover, but it's certainly turned you into a cruel adult with no empathy for others.

    So you reckon it's ok to bully people with disabilities or other differences, or sick people or old people? I reckon you're a prime example of why bullying is a bad thing for everyone.

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    • Yes, if people are weak then they deserve to be beneath the strong

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  • I was bullied for being Autistic. I could not change that even if I wanted to.

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  • Normal for someone with stunted emotional development.

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  • I agree with you that being bullied is inevitable for most and can be used for a life lesson, but i don’t see why you cant also be sympathetic about it.

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  • It just made me more introverted and suspicious of everyone's motives.Therefore no it did not help me.

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  • So what about when adults bully each other or even children?

    Is it just the receiver of the abuse “asking for it”

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    • If an adult lets someone bully them then yes, they are asking for it.

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  • A lot of people get molested, beaten, or stolen from. Does that make it ok? You sound like a ripe sociopath.

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    • It makes it okay if they let it happen and don’t fight back

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  • I agree with some of this
    But I grew up in the 90s, I was bullied but it was confined to the schoolyard (except for occasions where I was chased or followed outside of school)
    But there was escape. There was school holidays. Once I was home I could read a book, or pour myself into art. The problem now is that bullying is 24/7 because they are screenagers and they are bullied online as well. When you’re a teenager high school is your world you don’t really see that one day it’s over and you’re released into the adult world and you can leave it all behind.
    So I have some sympathy.
    But then on the other hand I think being bashed was the best thing that ever happened in terms of my manhood

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  • Ok, what about consequences?
    You get bullied, so you fight back.
    put the kid in the hospital.
    Hes messed up, for life.
    You just call it a day and move on?
    No, life doesnt work that way.
    you end up in court.
    your parents getting sued, you facing criminal charges.
    Im not saying every case gos this way.
    Ive seen it go this way.
    I knew the man who was 1/2 blind after getting hit with a bat at age 11.
    his life changed, irreversably in one instant.
    Youre saying thats OK.

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    • I like how you typed that it was kind of like a beat poem

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      • I never know why people say I rhyme.
        Im only on here when I drink.
        But never see it as poetic.

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        • I never said you rhyme
          Beat poetry is just stream of consciousness expresssion but in the structure of prose

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          • I stand corrected.
            Other folks said that.
            As for the original post.
            I think if kids had a highly structured environment that instilled both competition, but at the same time a clan mentality.
            Where, you dress the same.
            You all are one group.
            But in competition you fight to your last breath.
            I think you solve both issues.
            knowone is bullied.
            the team prevents that.
            Yet knowone is to soft, the team promotes strenghth.
            Win Win.
            The fact this isnt in practice today, is just another cause of our ultimate failure.

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  • I had the same thing but with loud crying. When I was little my parents would beat me up if I cried, so I learned not to and since then it infuriates me when someone cries loudly.

    But at the end, crying is important for
    our health and bullying is toxic, people who caused us to think otherwise are the ones who need to improve themselves

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  • I don't much like bullies. They use others for the self esteem building to get theirs.. Pedophiles do the same thing!

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  • Probably not that abnormal for people that were bullied themselves and got through it okay, but that doesn't make it right. Most of the people I saw that were bullied, myself included, never got less weird as they got older. They just fell into weird cliques or had crappy school lives. Peer pressure is already a thing, there doesn't need to be a bully on top of it to make life worse.

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  • Fuck, you are a ruthles bitch. Or do I mean toothless?

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  • There is also not being bullied and having your shit together. I am sorry that happened to you, but glad you came out on top.

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  • Depends, some kids are just born labled as "bully bait" only ones that don't fall into this cathegory are handicap kids. This kids should be left alone. Now if you're a momma's boy/girl or the teacher's ass kisser you deserve to be beaten to a pulp.

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  • I agree with you that being bullied is inevitable for most and can be used for a life lesson, but i don’t see why you cant also be sympathetic about it.

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  • When I went from Catholic school to public school, I was bullied immensely. I always remained myself through the years. But I did acquire a very ruff exterior. I have also, come to appreciate this, as people either fuck off, or try to be near me. As a result, I am surrounded by THE BEST fucking people someone could ask for.


    I agree, OP.

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