Is it normal that i feel like an ugly duckling?

For those who are wondering I'm a 18 year old male and I often see myself as an ugly boy, I know this because I was once told by a girl in my year that I am ugly and that no girl will accept me. I wonder if it is true that I really am just an ugly duckling or a person whose just going hard on myself?

The real reason why I think this way is because like I said some girls in my year think I'm just an ugly person and no one likes me.

So that caused me to cease talking. I'm scared what other people will think of me that I am an ugly duckling.

Another point is that I don't see myself as handsome.

As much as I am focusing on my life goals, my anxiety about my ugly duckling phase is questioning me a lot.

Is It Normal?
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  • An ugly duckling is someone that isn't cute as a kid but becomes attractive as they get older. In the parable a wrong egg got put in the nest and the resulting chick was perceived to be ugly but grew to be a beautiful swan. I think youre using that term wrongly.

    Either way, we judge ourselves way more harshly than we really are. And you shouldn't concern yourself with what cunty bitches say to you while you're young. Even if your face isn't that of a model, you have dozens of other attributes you have or can improve to become highly attractive.

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    • This... If you were ugly as a kid and grew up into an ugly adult, you're just an ugly duckling that became an ugly duck... Story does not apply here. XD

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  • https://youtu.be/xy1rAXILPKs

    Listen to clunk, there's not much I can add

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  • I'm ugly, too. We'll both be fine. What you need to do is learn to accept your ugliness. If you think you're ugly, that's the first step. Next, you have to realize the ugliness in everyone else. Everyone has a bit of ugliness. (Don't tell them about it, though) Now, you are ready for the final step: you should be ready to realize that you are ugly, but so is everyone else; in reality, it really doesn't matter, and you should just get over it. Also, if you're trying to avoid negative stereotypes, you probably don't want to portray yourself as the ugly quiet one, and, if you want a partner, that's probably one of the worst stereotypes you can portray yourself as.

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  • I wouldn't say that it's a certain thing that you're ugly based off of what one very rude girl told you (or maybe a group of them). High school kids can be extremely cruel, and they often only say hurtful things because they're insecure and making others feel bad is the only way they can feel better about themselves or like they have any power.

    I was called ugly by people in school too (ironically, all ugly people from the inside out, lol), but I do not believe I am ugly, and no one's opinion will change that. What really matters is how you feel about yourself, not what some dumb twats just trying to act like Mean Girls bitches think.

    Besides, looks are not the most important thing about a person, and do not last forever anyway. Not to mention that usually, the "ugly ducklings", socially awkward kids, etc. in high school usually turn out to be the best adults, while the snot nosed brats running around insulting everyone who may be popular right now usually end up losing their looks and becoming miserable, since their looks were all they ever had to begin with.

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  • I wouldn't say it's normal so much, as rather common, but you don't have to meet society's generic definition of physical beauty to be successful in this world. Have a look Die Antwoord!

    https://youtu.be/uMK0prafzw0

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  • I wouldn't say it's normal so much, as rather common, but you don't have to meet society's generic definition of physical beauty to be successful in this world. Have a look Die Antwoord!

    https://youtu.be/uMK0prafzw0

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  • The ugly duckling story isn’t quite that.

    It wasn’t ugly if you’ve read the massive book to the end.

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    • Actually I've read it long ago when I was young and spoilers: the ugly duckling was first an outcast and then becomes a Swan in the end anyways.

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  • One girl says you’re ugly and you believe her? You’re going to let one snotty bitch destroy you? Screw her.

    I’ve been called ugly by both sexes, told I need to get plastic surgery and likened to a series of unflattering animals. I still get up each day and wink at myself in the mirror.

    Symmetry helps but the majority of attractiveness is looking after yourself and having confidence. Ironically once I started acting like I didn’t care what people thought the compliments started, I got told I could be a model and was called perfect by women AND men. This was the exact same face that a few years before was likened to a rat.

    My point is that you just have to learn to respect yourself and brush the haters off. No fairy godmother is going to come and give you self-esteem, you have to build it yourself. I still get rude comments on my face and body but I laugh them off and with practice you will be able to do the same.

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